In The Trenches With The Toulons

A red flag is when something indicates or draws attention to a problem, danger, or irregularity.  A red flag also represents a warning signal or sign.  When you see red flags in a relationship, what actions do you normally take?  Have you ever been in a situation where you have seen red flags from your significant other, but decided to overlook them?  Some of those red flags could be...controlling behavior...lack of communication...secretive past...lack of trust... I mean the list could go on and on! In this episode, Ralph and Touly discuss red flags they've experienced prior to each other as well as in their relationship.  Listen in to find out those red flags, why were they avoided, and what they learned when avoiding the inevitable. ----------------------------------------------------------------------- You can find us on all podcast platforms, such as, Apple Podcasts, Spotify, Google Podcasts, iHeart Radio just to name a few. ----------------------------------------------------------------------- Social

Some issues are not easy to answer, nor are they easy  to accept.  While it may seem, at the time, like not addressing the issue is the best action, it is actually an abandonment of reason and honest inquiry. What if not addressing the issue has them show up in the form of something else?!?! In this episode, Ralph and Touly discuss situations in their marriage where they didn't address issues, but they still ended up showing up, just in a different format, creating more damage than originally expected. ------------------------------------------------------------------------ Social Media: Facebook: In The Trenches With The Toulons Twitter: @TrenchesPodcast Instagram: @inthetrenchespodcast  

Hello Family we are back from our breaking have so much to tell you!!! In this episode, the Toulons catch you up on everything that has been going on with them personally and in their marriage since Dec 2019.  Shoutout to Amber and her Fiancé on their engagement. As well as Charlotte on her organization, "A Tribe Called Blessed". Check her out on ig @char.rochelle for more information on the organization.

The death of a loved one can change your world forever. Grief is a natural reaction to loss; it can be felt emotionally, physically and spiritually. Everyone copes with loss differently, and you will process grief in your own individual way, in your own time. In this weeks episode, Ralph and Touly jump into the Trenches with Roni Lambrecht.  Roni tells us the story of how her and her husband John loss their son in a ATV accident.  She discusses what it took to help each other get through the rough times, doing what works for your marriage in these hard times, and having no regrets. Key Takeaways from this episode How keeping busy helped with the transition of their loss Having a support system that is understanding How the loss of a child helped other parent do better with their parenting of of child/children And paying it forward through acts of kindness in Dalton's name ------------------------------------------------------------------------ About Roni: Roni and John have been happily married since 1995.

A wife is a female partner in a continuing marital relationship.  A married woman may indicate her marital status in a number of different, for instance, in western culture a married woman would commonly wear a wedding ring, but in other cultures other markers of marital status may be used. A married woman is commonly given the honorific title "Mrs", but some married women prefer to be referred to as "Ms", a title which is also used when the marital status of a woman is unknown.   This week on In the Trenches with the Toulons, Ralph and Touly jump into the Trenches with Lakia (The Wife Coach) and Derek Brandenburg.  Lakia aka The Wife Coach is an expert in helping women grow from a married woman to a wife.  Through her teachings, she shows women how to be happy, understanding, and patient simply by changing the way you show up.   Key Takeaways from this episode The difference between a bride and wife God's perspective on marriage Power of the "P" - Power of your position as a wife And seeing the power within

This week, Ralph and Touly jump into the Trenches with Suzanne Bloom.  Suzanne is a marriage vet with 28 yrs under her belt.  She discusses how her & her husband keep it fresh in their marriage and how you not to resent him while being a stay-at-home wife/mom. Key Takeaways From This Episode Finding the best when being a stay-at-home wife Becoming a entrepreneur post stay-at-home career And how finances can turn a marriage upside down ------------------------------------------------------------------------ About Suzanne: Suzanne has been married for 28 years with her share of ups and downs. She raised 4 kids who as a stay-at-home wife/mom.  After all the kids moved out, she transitioned from stay-at-home mom to a business owner, turning things upside down with percentage of income coming into the home. ------------------------------------------------------------------------   Trench Announcements: The Money Therapist Sharita is offering, from now until December 13th, the opportunity to get a 30-minu

Counting is the process of determining the number of elements of a finite set of objects. The traditional way of counting consists of continually increasing a counter by a unit for every element of the set, in some order, while marking those elements to avoid visiting the same element more than once, until no unmarked elements are left. Counting is taking account of when reaching a total.  In the episode, Ralph and Touly jump into The Trenches with, Life & Mindset Coach, Nancy Stevens.  Nancy discusses being ready to go to counseling if required, always work on yourself, and enjoying your spouse. Key Takeaways from this episode Communication not worked on causes more harm because you begin to make assumptions Where do you best communication You care about each other as people first and remove your agenda ------------------------------------------------------------------ About Nancy: Nancy Stevens is an International Certified Life Coach and blogger with The Wellness Universe. She enjoys her latest role

Coaching is a form of development in which an experienced person, called a coach, supports a learner or client in achieving a specific personal or professional goal by providing training and guidance.  The learner is sometimes called a coachee. Occasionally, coaching may mean an informal relationship between two people, of whom one has more experience and expertise than the other and offers advice and guidance as the latter learns. This week, Ralph and Touly jump into the Trenches with Relationship Coach, Matthew Solomon.  Matthew talks about how not feeling you are a match doesn't negate a good time during your date.  He also discusses what he heard from his ex-wife translated differently because of his insecurities within himself. Key Takeaways from this episode Communication is Key Consent is not as hard as you think it is And intimacy is important within a relationship ------------------------------------------------------------------ About Matthew: Known as “The Coach for the Modern Soul,” Matthew Sol

We are back for another episode with The Dope Sex Therapist. In this episode you will hear us discuss: Open Relationship Threesomes Polyamory Kink/Fetish Arousal Gels Tantra *NOTES* If you would like to know more about the Wives/Girlfriend Retreat in Jamaica 2020 with The Dope Sex Therapist & The Wife coach, head over to @TheDopeSexTherapist on Instagram. Want some of that AROUSAL GEL mentioned in this episode. Hit up @TheDopeSexTherapist on IG to get that 20% discount with her Passion Party Rep. THE DOPE SEX THERAPIST INFO: Instagram - @thedopesextherapist Wesbite - www.intimacyventerga.com

A blend is a mixture of two or more different things or substances; e.g., a product of a mixer or blender. But what about when you blend families, what does that look like? Blending families is quite the task and many struggle with finding that happy medium. In this episode, Ralph and Touly jump into the Trenches with Joel Hawbaker. Joel has quite the story as he has mastered blended families. He discusses things, such as having grace towards your ex and its okay to disagree as whole as long as you all are respectful.   Key Takeaways From The Episode: Blending families can work with the proper mindset and tools Speak highly of your guests are the kids And although it may hurt, you have to do what's best for the children in a blended family ---------------------------------------------------------------------------- About Joel: Joel is an award-winning high school teacher, a best-selling author, and a professional speaker who focuses on blended family life and leadership. He is passionate about helping othe

  A 2016 study published in the Journal of Research in Personality found that people who felt a sense of purpose accumulated more wealth than those who feel as though their lives lack meaning. The researchers discovered that individuals with a sense of purpose have a higher income and a bigger net worth than those who feel as though their lives lack meaning.  Even when they controlled for known factors that predict financial success--like demographics and personality--they found a sense of purpose made a big difference in a person's financial life.  The researchers suspect people who feel their lives have meaning are goal-oriented. Looking at their long-term goals likely motivates them to develop better financial habits. In this episode, Ralph and Touly jump into the Trenches with Patrice and Gerald Washington.  From running a seven-figure business to basically losing it all, this couple understands what it means to chase money without a purpose.  The Washington's explained their journey, and how they grew c

  Wealth is the abundance of valuable financial assets or physical possessions which can be converted into a form that can be used for transactions.  In today's society, if you possess a substantial net worth you are considered wealthy.  Net worth is defined as the current value of one's assets.  So what does it take to be wealthy or have a substantial net worth?  Why does the African American community struggle more than other communities? According to The Road to Zero Wealth report published by Prosperity Now and the Institute for Policy Studies, the median wealth of black Americans will fall to zero by 2053 if current trends continue. Did they say ZERO?!?! This is a shock and very concerning as many African Americans have worked hard to make a living, but have nothing to show for it.  That's because it was never taught within many households or that if we work together we are 10x stronger.   Well, on this episode, Ralph and Touly jump into the Trenches with CEO/Founder of Freeman Capital, Calvin Williams J

The Toulons pulling back the veil on another top reason for why people are getting divorce or breaking up, and that reason is sex. Yes SEX!  Jumping into the Trenches with the Toulons is friend to the podcast, Dope Sex Therapist Stephanie Walthour.  She discusses Low Sexual Desires, Frequency, Erectile dysfunction, and Sex “ Addiction”.  Sex Therapy allows couples to communicate about sex with each other without being judged or fear that things will not be handle fairly.       Key Takeaways From Episode: Communication is still the best policy when it comes to relationship, especially talking about our wants and needs in the bedroom. Having a healthy sex life is another key to having a successful relationship and/or marriage. With a Professional Sex Therapist, there is always hope where you may see limits. Sex Therapist can be found: asset.org, Psychology Today and therapyforblackgirls.com   Dope Sex Therapist Stephanie Info:   Instagram: @thedopesextherapist Website: www.intimacycenterga.com     Add

A near-death experience (NDE) is a personal experience associated with death or impending death. These experiences are associated with changes in personality and outlook on life. Dr. Kenneth Ring (Professor of Psychology), during his studies, identified a consistent set of value and belief changes associated with people who have had a near-death experience. Among these changes, he found that individuals have a greater appreciation for life, higher self-esteem, greater compassion for others, a heightened sense of purpose and self-understanding, elevated spirituality, and a feeling of being more intuitive.   In this episode, Ralph and Touly jump into the Trenches with Artisha Bolding, Artisha shares the story of her near death experience from 2018. She also takes us on her journey through the good, bad, and ugly with her husband and how her NDE changed the trajectory of their marriage.    Key takeaways from the episode: Its homecoming y'all GHOE announcements  Artisha and her husband grew closer after her NDE

We were brought up believing in fairy tales where Prince Charming comes in to sweep the heroine off her feet, whisking her away to be married. Growing up we would imitate playing husband & wife, with children, a dog, and a white picket fence. For women, some were probably told that they needed a man to complete them. Unfortunately, real life isn't a fairy tale, but many women don't know that until they begin dating. This week in the Trenches, Ralph and Touly welcome a guest who doesn't want to be identified, but you can refer to her as Alice.  Alice discusses how she struggles with a manipulative boyfriend who likes to control her using scare tactics.  She also talks about fairy-tales and how watching certain shows has tainted her perspective on what life/love.   Key Takeaways From Episode: When manipulating a person with low self-esteem, you are attacking their weakness Telling yourself something nice everyday to help build your self-esteem And The Bachelor is a TV show that doesn't represent what a re

**AUDIO DISCLAIMER** although this isn't our normal audio quality, we still believe this is a story that the world should hear. Our apologies in advance. As this is Domestic Violence Awareness Month, we wanted to provide the Trench Mob with a story based around that very topic. This week in The Trenches, Ralph and Touly welcome guest, Davisha Fredericks. Through her personal story of growth and triumph, listeners will gain an inside glance at not only how Davisha endured the abuse, but also how, over the course of 15 years, she gained the strength and faith to turn the impossible to possible. . Key Takeaways From Episode: - Taking care of self should never be a compromise - No matter what you're looking for, always look to God first - And using personal experiences is a great tool to help someone overcome fear and find their purpose   About Davisha: Davisha Fredericks is a Christian woman, wife, and mother of four children. Through various jobs, life experiences and hardships, she has sought to find her calli

his week in the Trenches we have Mrs. Kenyana Yates, the Deaconess herself.  Kenyana discusses how not listening to God will force you to learn the hard way.  She talks about how some of her judgement in her first marriage was clouded by her tenacious mentality & fear of failure.  She then takes us on the journey from being a divorced, single mother to becoming a wife for a second time. Key points from this episode: - Pay attention to the red flags  - Be true to who you are as a person - Work on knowing your expectations before committing to another person About Kenyana: As an engineering graduate of Virginia State University, she currently serves as a Supply Chain Leader of one of the nation’s leading E-Commerce companies. She has been recognized for her work in Diversity Careers in Engineering and Who’s Who. However, her most notable accomplishment is raising two daughters, Kendall and Raiya, with her husband Dimitri.  Social Media Handles: Twitter - @DeeToWhy   Instagram - @allyagape  

What's up Trench Mob!  This Monday we bring to you a Trenches BONUS episode that was recorded during Podcast Movement Orlando back in August.  We had the pleasure of meeting this amazing couple from Houston, Sharita & Quincy Humphrey.  Within 5 minutes of conversing with Sharita and Quincy, we instantly knew we wanted them in the Trenches with us.  We were able to record, and although it was shorter than our normal episodes, it provided the same impact. Key points from Episode Twitter is a #1 source to get a companies attention...PERIOD!  Quincy stated that the head requires a neck to help turn it Being submissive to your husband as that is the role of a queen And that marriage is a gift It is our pleasure to welcome Sharita Humphrey to the official Trench Mob Staff.   About Sharita: Sharita M. Humphrey is a certified financial education coach and consultant with the goal of finding ways to restructure, maintain, and grow her clients finances through real-world strategies, resources and a supportive onl

Jumping into the Trenches this week is expert Dolo Dater and Creator of the "For Starters" App, Jennifer Smith. Network Jenn, as she is known on Instagram, discusses the reason behind why she created the app in the first place. Jennifer also talks about why people struggle to date these days and what does it mean to dolo date. Jennifer brought up the fact that individuals need take the time to enjoy being single.  She also mentioned being intentional about improving herself and what her expectations are within a relationship. ForStarters App: Whether its been awkward, boring, or nonexistent, the dating world could use some help in the conversation department. The ForStarters App is the ultimate icebreaker app when meeting new people.   Checkout the app from the link below:   For Starters... by Fresh Tech Solutionz https://apps.apple.com/us/app/for-starters/id1460183184 IG @networkjenn IG @forstarters_

Jumping into the Trenches with The Toulons this week is a special guest by the name of Cherie Denise. Cherie is an author, life coach, and motivational speaker, currently residing in Atlanta,GA. Cherie discusses being whole, common issues within relationships, and how communication is still the #1 way to create a connection when it comes to relationships. Cherie's also discusses her first book, titled, "Treasures Revealed: Insight on Communication & Relationships." She carefully illustrates personal heartfelt insight on bridging the gap between communication and relationships. Treasures Revealed is built on faith and how it correlates to the power of the tongue.   For more information on her book, please click the link below: https://www.amazon.com/Treasures-Revealed-Insight-Communication-Relationships/dp/1793260273    Connect with Cherie Denise: IG - @CherieDeniseSpeaks Facebook - Execute365 YouTube - CherieDenise Speaks Website - http://execute365.net