Love & The Modern Man

Is it better to have loved and lost than never to have loved at all? It's a historic Love & the Modern Man episode because we agree on something –> indeed it is better to have loved and lost than to have never experienced it. But how to end something if it doesn't seem to have a future? First thing to know is that a relationship isn't a failure just because it ended. The end means a new beginning – for both of you.   Shahin IG: @theunlimitedhorizon Ariadna IG: @maitredate / Email: info@maitredate.com Can you give us a cyber high-five and rate and/or review us on iTunes? That would be awesome!

This episode was inspired by a BBC article on Billy Brown, a young man who spent seven years alienated from the world and trapped in/ addicted to an online world, eventually losing touch with reality. We've talked about loneliness before and how it affects men more than women but where does the desire to log on and tune out come from? Is it because the online world offers us enough? Because the offline world is too much? Because we don't think we're good enough to the people we share the world with?  Because reality isn't nice? Shahin IG: @theunlimitedhorizon Ariadna IG: @maitredate / Email: info@maitredate.com Can you give us a cyber high-five and rate and/or review us on iTunes? That would be awesome!

In this episode, Shahin delves into the ideas that surround change, coping with change, and following signs toward change. Engaging with a near and dear friend, Founder and President of B2 Aviation, Bernie Burns, they navigate different stories, ideas, and offer solutions as well as insight on how to accept and excel in an environment of flux. When the only constant seems to be change, how do you cope? How do you manage? How do you ensure what comes of it all is in the best interest of you as well as those involved? Stay tuned for this amazing episode! Shahin IG: @theunlimitedhorizon Ariadna IG: @maitredate / Email: info@maitredate.com Can you give us a cyber high-five and rate and/or review us on iTunes? That would be awesome!

Are your beliefs your ball of chain? Do you attract what you are? Do you attract what you judge? This episode is inspired by a post by thelovevibration888 that explores the power of words and thoughts. As Shahin say, we are spellbound by our own words. Or shackled. So choose wisely. Shahin IG: @theunlimitedhorizon Ariadna IG: @maitredate / Email: info@maitredate.com Can you give us a cyber high-five and rate and/or review us on iTunes? That would be awesome!  

In this episode of Love & The Modern Man, Shahin sits down with special guest, Ziad Masri, international best-selling author of Reality Unveiled and dives deep into the topic of the evolution of love. We dig into how love unfolds from dating to marriage, how best to support your partner in a healthy way and in the long run, who's really is fault when things go sideways in our partnerships, and much more.    Shahin IG: @theunlimitedhorizon Ariadna IG: @maitredate / Email: info@maitredate.com / Wechat: @xoariadna Can you give us a cyber high-five and rate and/or review us on iTunes? That would be awesome xo

In this episode of Love & The Modern Man, Ariadna interviews Teri from en(gender)ed, a podcast that explores the systems, practices and policies that enable gender-based violence and oppression and the solutions to end it, and uses gender as a lens to better understand power and oppression and its impact in the private realm, so as to better recognize and confront it in the public sphere. This interview was done in during the Brett Kavanaugh confirmation, something which we discuss at length as well as the Anita Hill hearing that happened almost 30 years ago. We also discuss the patriarchy and how it harms not only women and girls but men as well and the boys who will eventually become men and everyone else who doesn't conform to binary gender standards. Shahin IG: @theunlimitedhorizon Ariadna IG: @maitredate / Email: info@maitredate.com / Wechat: @xoariadna Can you give us a cyber high-five and rate and/or review us on iTunes? That would be awesome!  

How hard is it to ask for help? Technically it's not hard: Identify and verbalize. But there's a lot more to it. We need to accept we don't know what we're doing. We need to be comfortable sharing our lack of knowledge with whoever it is we're going to ask for help. We need to know it's OK to not know everything. It's difficult when we're in the moment but no man (or woman) is an island. We depend on collaboration and cooperation with others. Sometimes we're the one with the questions and sometimes we're the one with the answers.   In this podcast we share what situations make us feel insecure and how we go about self-soothing to overcome the negative feelings. Shahin IG: @theunlimitedhorizon Ariadna IG: @maitredate / Email: info@maitredate.com / Wechat: @xoariadna Can you give us a cyber high-five and rate and/or review us on iTunes? That would be awesome!

In this podcast episode we discuss the cycle of pain and how being hurt by others is what makes us hurt others…but it doesn't have to be that way. We do not have to let fear govern our life. Shahin suggests that the reason we are so activated by fear is because we have been practicing it more than love, kindness and respect. We can overcome the fear and hate if we put our mind to it. An extreme example is the reconciliation of the Hutus and Tutsis after the Rwanda genocide. You can read about it and view some very moving photos here and here. If they were able to overcome their differences and put their weapons down and unite with their enemies, how can we not? Name your 'enemy' and try to understand him/her/it/they. It's by accepting and understanding that you can move on and stop the cycle of pain. Shahin IG: @theunlimitedhorizon Ariadna IG: @maitredate / Email: info@maitredate.com / Wechat: @xoariadna Can you give us a cyber high-five and rate and/or review us on iTunes? That would be awesome!

In this episode of Love and the Modern Man, we discuss the idea of self-love. Is it selfish? Is it feasible? How does one even take the first steps to get there? Self-care and self-love look different for everyone but they're something you will need to discover if you want to live and love fully.  Try it -- even if the idea of self-love sounds ridiculous! Because, as the author of Love 101, Peter McWilliams, said, "You're present for everything you go through." Shahin walks us through a meditative exercise, which can be done anywhere, to get you comfortable with order and chaos, which is where you'll find the non-judgmental place you need to get you closer to self-love. Shahin IG: @theunlimitedhorizon Ariadna IG: @maitredate / Email: info@maitredate.com / Wechat: @xoariadna Can you give us a cyber high-five and rate and/or review us on iTunes? That would be awesome! Enjoying what you're reading? Why not sign up for the free e-newsletter and stay up to date on Maitre D'ate news, advice & ev

"A Heart to Heart with Joe" is a 1.5 hour podcast with Shahin interviewing Dr. Joe Marshalla. It is a real and raw conversation, in which Dr. Joe gets to speak fully to the quintessential concepts required to truly free our hearts and minds in our relationships, both with others and, most importantly, with self. Among the many concepts and ideas presented in the interview, he offers answers to questions such as: "What is Relationship? What is Love?  How are we missing the mark and can we change course...?" "A Heart to Heart with Joe" is a fascinating presentation that is sure to challenge your views on just about everything you've experienced in your relationships. Much more information about these topics and about many more of Joe's works can be found at www.repeatlessness.com    -------------------------- Shahin IG: @theunlimitedhorizon Ariadna IG: @maitredate / Email: info@maitredate.co

"A Heart to Heart with Joe" is a 1.5 hour podcast with Shahin interviewing Dr. Joe Marshalla. It is a real and raw conversation, in which Dr. Joe gets to speak fully to the quintessential concepts required to truly free our hearts and minds in our relationships, both with others and, most importantly, with self. Among the many concepts and ideas presented in the interview, he offers answers to questions such as: "What is Relationship? What is Love?  How are we missing the mark and can we change course...?" "A Heart to Heart with Joe" is a fascinating presentation that is sure to challenge your views on just about everything you've experienced in your relationships. Much more information about these topics and about many more of Joe's works can be found at www.repeatlessness.com    -------------------------- Shahin IG: @theunlimitedhorizon Ariadna IG: @maitredate / Email: info@maitredate.co

In this episode of Love & the Modern Man, Ariadna interviews Greg Schwartz, dating coach and founder of Make Online Dating Fun. We discuss all things online dating, including what is the best approach to online dating for men and why it's important to be the best version of your authentic self instead of trying to fill the generic 'attractive guy' mould. We also chat about the need for empathy when dating online, how his degree in Human-Computer Interactions has helped him coach men with online dating. Greg brings clarity – for the ladies –  to why men share unsolicited dick pics and – for the men – explains in plain language why they need to stop doing that. -------------------------- Shahin IG: @theunlimitedhorizon Ariadna IG: @maitredate / Email: info@maitredate.com / Wechat: @xoariadna Can you give us a cyber high-five and rate and/or review us on iTunes? That would be awesome! xo LMM

  In this episode of Love & the Modern Man, we discuss a recent article in The Pool: Is this the reason that men won't defend women in public? The premise of the opinion piece is that men, when they are one-on-one with a woman, show solidarity and empathy, and offer support and understanding for their points of view (on feminism and gender dynamics but also other less 'polemic' subjects too) but once in a group they huddle together with a boys vs. girls mentality. We discuss if it is because women are more collaborative and seek consensus, and they bring out that tendency in men, who are naturally more competitive and either you're 'in' with the top guy or you're 'out' (which to our reptile mind means losing out on resources and therefore dying). The discussion then moves on to the evolution of men and women, in the context of how we deal with our emotions and what we can/need do with them. xo LMM -------------------------- Shahin IG: @theunlimitedhorizon Ariadna IG: @maitredate / Email: info@maitre

Loneliness is a killer and it predominantly affects men. The New York Times reports, "suicide rate for middle-aged men was 27.3 deaths per 100,000, while for women it was 8.1 deaths per 100,000." That's more than triple the occurrence than in women. We discuss why this loneliness in the first place and what guys can do to overcome it. We share lots of ideas, from the simple (say 'Hi' to and make eye contact with the people who you cross paths with when you're walking) to the more complex (volunteer or become a mentor at an organization that has a mission that you believe in). Part of the issue with men is that they don't talk enough and when you don't talk a lot you end up not having many people to talk to. Shahin has some suggestions to this point but is well aware part of the the fear of broaching the subject is getting rejected. Rejection stings at the best of times but when you're already feeling your lowest it can be devastating. Of course, loneliness and depression can't be overcome just by doing a few

Last week the topic was the 'sex talk' and this week we're going to the other side and discuss the anti-masturbation/ anti-sex movement, which Ariadna thinks it's ridiculous because procreating and keeping our DNA alive is the top priority of each species but Shahin thinks it's a great idea because he says it's more of a fast or reset and less of an open-ended exercise in celibacy. But is not masturbating for a month similar to Dry January or cutting down on carbs? Shahin shares some benefits that come with taking a break but Ariadna has a hard time buying it. We refer to a TedX talk with Gary Wilson called The Great Porn Experiment (which please note makes "several assertions that are not supported by academically respected studies in medicine and psychology"). Wilson discusses the effects of online porn on men (especially young men who have had exposure to online porn since they learned what porn is) and the benefits of not watching porn anymore. xo LMM -------------------------- Shahin IG: @theunlimitedho

In this episode of Love & the Modern Man, Ariadna interviews Sara Tang, a Hong-Kong-based sex educator and coach, and the creator of the Better in Bed podcast. The main topic of the podcast is the 'sex talk' and why it is integral to a fulfilling sex life. Besides answering the question of 'why?' she also shares the 'how' and 'when'. Lots of laughs on this one! xo LMM -------------------------- Shahin IG: @theunlimitedhorizon Ariadna IG: @maitredate / Email: info@maitredate.com / Wechat: @xoariadna Can you give us a cyber high-five and rate and/or review us on iTunes? That would be awesome! xo LMM

In this episode of Love & the Modern Man, Ariadna interviews Professor Julia Groves who has taught sociology and gender studies at Hong Kong University of Science and Technology (HKUST) for several years and co-wrote an article, Love in the Time of Settling, which is about the collective eye-roll Hong Kong single women give to the outdated dating advice that older generations attempt to scare them with. We also discuss gender issues, including aspirational dating, leftover women and bare branches. xo LMM -------------------------- Shahin IG: @theunlimitedhorizon Ariadna IG: @maitredate / Email: info@maitredate.com / Wechat: @xoariadna Can you give us a cyber high-five and rate and/or review us on iTunes? That would be awesome! xo LMM

In this episode of Love & the Modern Man, Ariadna interviews Valentina Tudose, a relationship expert and dating coach who is based out of Hong Kong. In the podcast we discuss the almost-long-lost art of meeting people in IRL, best practices for men who want to meet women in public, and what separates the men who are creepy from those who are not. -------------------------- Shahin IG: @theunlimitedhorizon Ariadna IG: @maitredate / Email: info@maitredate.com / Wechat: @xoariadna Can you give us a cyber high-five and rate and/or review us on iTunes? That would be awesome! xo LMM

In this episode of Love & the Modern Man, Ariadna interview Johanna Lynn.  In the interview we talk about how unresolved issues affect a person's ability to have healthy romantic relationships, how this manifests itself differently in men and women, and what steps we can take to mitigate past issues from affecting the love we have and want to share. It's a pretty fascinating interview because she shares how we unconsciously emulate the actions (and words) that hurt us when we were younger. Johanna also shares how she is raising her son to become a 21st century man who is in touch with his emotions and feelings. -------------------------- Shahin IG: @theunlimitedhorizon Ariadna IG: @maitredate / Email: info@maitredate.com / Wechat: @xoariadna Can you give us a cyber high-five and rate and/or review us on iTunes? That would be awesome! xo LMM

It's pretty straightforward and simple, right!? Don't be a dick and don't show your dick (unless you've received explicit & enthusiastic consent from the person you want to show your dick to). But just in case it wasn't straightforward and simple we spell it out in very plain words. And here's a tip: Most women have seen their fair share of dicks (and they pretty much look the same) so if you're going to send a dick pic make sure you give it some personality. (Don't worry, we give you some suggestions in the podcast.) Shahin IG: @theunlimitedhorizon Ariadna IG: @maitredate / Email: info@maitredate.com / Wechat: @xoariadna Can you give us a cyber high five and rate and/or review us on iTunes? That would be awesome! xo