Future Dads Club

  • Autor: Vários
  • Narrador: Vários
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Episódios

  • Eric - This is a life experience

    08/03/2024 Duração: 28min

    In today's episode, we dive deep into the heart of fatherhood with Eric, a soon-to-be dad navigating the complex emotions and preparations for welcoming a new life into the world. From his reflective journey on the influences of his upbringing to the anticipation of crafting new traditions, Eric opens up about the nuanced path to parenthood. As we explore Eric's story, we touch on the significance of community, the transformative power of sharing experiences, and the importance of embracing the unknown. This episode isn't just about the logistics of becoming a parent but the profound changes it brings to one's identity and outlook on life. Eric's candidness provides a window into the joys and challenges that come with this major life transition. Whether discussing his connection with his partner, Amy, their decision to start a family, or his hopes for the future, Eric's narrative is a compelling reminder of the depth of the parenting journey. We wrap up with a look ahead, promising to

  • What's in a song?

    12/05/2020 Duração: 07min

    If you've ever heard a parent sing a silly song and wondered why they'd make up silly songs, then clearly there isn't any joy in your life.  Erica found  her memory of songs we'd sing little guy fading from memory.  So what better way if memorializing dinky tunes than putting them on our podcast.  If you get an earworm, don't blame us, you've been warned.  Enjoy! --- Send in a voice message: https://anchor.fm/futuredadsclub/message Support this podcast: https://anchor.fm/futuredadsclub/support

  • Zarko - The first months

    24/10/2019 Duração: 14min

    In this episode I have a conversation with my friend Zarko, who learned he and his partner were expecting a child.  You'll get to hear Zarko consider his upcoming role as a future dad in the first trimester, in the third trimester, and once he comes up for air, in the fourth trimester.  This one way we thought of capturing his thoughts as they evolved over the duration of the pregnancy, to see the kind of growth and the considerations he'd have as a future dad awaiting his first child.  As always, feel free to share this with other future dads you may know.  --- Send in a voice message: https://anchor.fm/futuredadsclub/message Support this podcast: https://anchor.fm/futuredadsclub/support

  • Birth Experience - Part 3; Message to future dads

    17/10/2019 Duração: 10min

    My wife shares what she thinks she could have done differently in preparation for her new role. She also muses on what the role of a future dad could be. --- Send in a voice message: https://anchor.fm/futuredadsclub/message Support this podcast: https://anchor.fm/futuredadsclub/support

  • Birth Experience - Part 2, Dig a little deeper

    10/10/2019 Duração: 10min

    In part 1, Erica shares her birth experience. I challenge her to dig a little deeper, because I know what she experienced wasn't as simple as she made it sound. Have a listen, and as always, feel free to share this podcast with a friend you think might appreciate knowing they're not alone.  --- Send in a voice message: https://anchor.fm/futuredadsclub/message Support this podcast: https://anchor.fm/futuredadsclub/support

  • Birth Experience - Part 1

    03/10/2019 Duração: 16min

    In this episode, my partner shares her side of the story. I've split it into 4 parts to make what is an emotional and demanding day a little lighter yet relatable for you. If you're a future dad, I encourage you to have a listen with your partner.  We hope our story gives you something worthwhile to discuss, or highlights insights to explore.  --- Send in a voice message: https://anchor.fm/futuredadsclub/message Support this podcast: https://anchor.fm/futuredadsclub/support

  • Where are you?

    15/07/2019 Duração: 45s

    Checking in to say we care --- Send in a voice message: https://anchor.fm/futuredadsclub/message Support this podcast: https://anchor.fm/futuredadsclub/support

  • What's in a birth class?

    29/03/2019 Duração: 08min

    The longer I live, the more it seems, that details surrounding major life events are private and not to be discussed too openly. It could also have to do with how comfortable people are at digging a little deeper and questioning things. For example buying a car, or a house, are two things that require an appetite and stamina for bargaining and possibly not getting what you want. In a North American cultural context, where most things are off the shelf, it seems like the pain associated with an unknown experience, excuses the unnecessarily higher costs associated with these purchases. Oh yea, weddings are totally on that list as well.   When it came to my partners' pregnancy, I can't recall who told her this, but essentially it was, when you start showing, be ready for open season on the way you look, the way you feel, and the pain you'll be going through.  We noticed that what people were most interested in talking about, were the, let's say,  challenging highlights of their pregnancy.  Mo

  • A moment of science

    27/03/2019 Duração: 08min

    I like to understand the etymology of words, particularly in Arabic because it can be poetic at times.  For instance, the Arabic word for human being is Insaan.  From what I could find, it could have two roots, one is to forget and the other is to relate, to love or be loved.   So now I'm thinking wow! to relate, and to love or be loved, that makes sense that they're similar, that's what relationships are, the ones you choose anyway. Because I'm reminded of folks who say, "you don't choose your family". Which touches again on transgenerational trauma, experiences that shape a generation, and impact another. Paul Raeburn, in his book "Do fathers matter? what science is telling us about the parent we've overlooked" describes the research conducted by the Cowans, a married couple, both psychology professors at berkley university. And they like most couples have had to deal with challenging conflict after their children were born, they also noticed the same trend in their circles of friends and family. This led t

  • What is a good father?

    22/03/2019 Duração: 03min

    I'd previously shared that my dad met his father at the tender age of 16.  I might dive deeper into his story in a future podcast, but suffice to say, his idea of what a father's responsibilities are, did not fully align with my needs.  Keep in mind, that, there is a nagging feeling in the back of my head that tells me I'm lucky.  Call it survivors guilt, but as a child that survived a war, and was provided refuge in a western industrialized nation, largely due to the sacrifices of my parents, I should count my lucky stars.  My hierarchy of needs were met, but I still find myself with an urge to do it differently.  This will have an impact on the things I prioritize, be it career, extended family, purchases, living arrangements.   My people are nomadic due to the natural environment they inhabit. They have always sought to thrive by picking up and moving depending on the season, of which there are two.  Dry, and Wet.  As a result they became resilient, proud. Nomadic, yet fixed.  I imagine that once upon a ti

  • Why does this matter?

    22/03/2019 Duração: 03min

    Outside of this whole future dad thing being what my friend described as the only time you'll have "stress filled fun", one of the reasons I believe I needed to undergo this self reflective process was synthesized by a pair of voices I've recently enjoyed listening to on the "find the outside" Podcast.  On an episode where they reflect on their ancestors, Tim and Tuesday shared the idea that quote "We are already ancestors, by virtue of being alive".  That struck me as a powerful way of looking at what it is I'm trying to create, impart, share and participate in as a future dad.  One of the things that can create lasting memories is how intense the emotions are.  The more intense, the longer one remembers.  So taking stock of what may have influenced me, what memories have lingered, and what intense emotions may accompany them, might help me be a more present dad. Inshallah.   It's also heartening to know I'm in good company.  A 2015 report on Parenting in America by the Pew Research center stated that 57% of

  • Do you wanna?

    22/03/2019 Duração: 03min

    Because so much of my partner's life energy and routines were bump centered, an inherently physically and emotionally taxing process. I initially wasn't as useful, or supportive as I could have been.  We didn't know how to communicate about our new need to divvy up this responsibility of bringing the child into the world in a way that makes sense.   One of the things I heard often, was the beautifully American way of making a directive statement in the form of a question. Do you want to buy that thing we spoke about? do you want to read that book?  It took us a while to sit down and have a good conversation about what my part in the 9 months was to be.  For instance, that looked like an increase in the share of household duties, research and logistical planning for birthing options, lining up assistance for the first weeks, not bringing sugary and fatty foods home to tempt her, encouraging physical activity, more frequent trips to the store before she got home from work, etc.   Knowing what I know now, it wou

  • We're pregnant! ....now what?

    13/03/2019 Duração: 06min

    When asked what having a child meant, my friend said "History doesn't end with me", it was much more profound. The idea is that having a child activates a mortality mirror, this lil bean may create a drive in you to do better, or stay alive long enough until they're no longer dependant on you for their survival.  Another friend said, "I started spin class, don't laugh, I used to make fun of it, but it's hard, and hopefully it'll help me avoid getting heart disease, I want to see my kids grow bro" Things to goog Wheel of life, coactive coaching. White board markers for windows. Personal coach, pregnancy. --- Send in a voice message: https://anchor.fm/futuredadsclub/message Support this podcast: https://anchor.fm/futuredadsclub/support

  • Can we do this?

    10/03/2019 Duração: 03min

    I recall a story my dad told me about the first time he met his father.  He was playing football, soccer, on a dirt lot, when a man who seemed familiar walked towards him.  He squints at this man through lashes made heavy by salty sweat, and without the drama of buzzing sounds of lightsabers. Hears the man say, I'm your father.  --- Send in a voice message: https://anchor.fm/futuredadsclub/message Support this podcast: https://anchor.fm/futuredadsclub/support

  • What mask to wear?

    10/03/2019 Duração: 04min

    I remember taking my phone off airplane mode and my phone buzzing a lot more than usual, it had a bunch of missed whatsapp calls and messages from my siblings, they're much younger, so if it's not on snapchat, it had to be important. I was worried, because we live oceans apart. so when I reached out, I learned it was because they had a heartfelt conversation with our dad, well past midnight, when he at some point, broke down, and cried.  They were, to say the least, shocked.  They called because it had never happened before, though they finally felt heard, they were also scared for him. To see a mask of steel, melt like butter was at once heartening, and terrifying.   My father lived a tough life, as did his father before him, and his father before him.  In his drive to be all he understood a man, and father needs to be, he wore masks, that decades later had to come apart.  --- Send in a voice message: https://anchor.fm/futuredadsclub/message Support this podcast: https://anchor.fm/futuredadsclub/support

  • Future dad, how do you feel?

    07/03/2019 Duração: 03min

    Laying the ground work for what this is all going to be about. A set of short musings and mostly reflections on my struggles with being a future dad who wants to become a present dad. I don't know a lot of guys who want to talk about this in public, so I'll start by talking to myself. If you know a future dad, send them my way, I'd love to know what's going through their head. --- Send in a voice message: https://anchor.fm/futuredadsclub/message Support this podcast: https://anchor.fm/futuredadsclub/support

  • Is this happening?

    07/03/2019 Duração: 04min

    I'm not sure I fully realized that this child was coming in to the world for most of the pregnancy. There were no changes in habits, morning sickness, or cravings in my body to make it "real". I had to feel ready, in the beginning, for this to end as quickly as it began. Because I needed to be strong for any possibility. --- Send in a voice message: https://anchor.fm/futuredadsclub/message Support this podcast: https://anchor.fm/futuredadsclub/support