Crossing The Line

Enjoy our sixth episode on the Narcissist's Secrets Series. What makes narcissists most successful in the abuse of others, comes with the misunderstanding that their targets are usually very concerned with what is right and wrong. This is what the narcissist falsely advertises to charm their target and hook them in to begin with. This is what is used against the target, and will hurt and shock them the most during the devaluation and discard period. When the narcissist drops the mask and starts acting out their real self, this is what they play and manipulate with. Don't ever assume a narcissist would not do a certain act, just because you or others would not do that. There is nothing that will stop the narcissist from breaking boundaries and rules of conduct. 

Continuing on in our Narcissist's Secrets Series, #5. Appearance drives the narcissist. They focus on creating an image of having personal characteristics or talents, intelligence and abilities that no one else has (in their mind). They make themselves an authority on things that would require extensive education, experience or training for anyone else. They create a false image of themselves to portray to others. 

Enjoy this episode, the fourth in the series. I discuss the concept of why the narcissist doesn't want you to know that you can say no, and that is usually based on their continued attempts to control their target and target's environment, gaslight the target, to get them to refrain from their interests, hobbies, in a way to gain control of their daily lives. At the end, these abusers, if successful, can achieve an almost "slave-like" target that is 24/7 all about the narcissist, causing the target to stop talking to their family, friends, and possibly even get the target to quit their job so they become completely dependent on the narcissist. Listen in, and feel free to comment on this podcast by sending me an email at crossingtheline15@gmail.com. 

Welcome to our series of narcissist's secrets! Enjoy this episode, where I discuss how the narcissist uses you (or anyone else) to their advantage. I explain a few red flags to look out for with these people, and what you can expect from them. 

Enjoy our second in the series of Narcissist's Secrets. In this episode, I recap a little of the prior podcast and #1, and I discuss #2.  Narcissists are always looking for admiration and attention, even if it's negative. Recognize the signs of narcissism in relationships, and understand this: A relationship with a narcissist is always a threesome. There is always someone waiting in the wings with the narcissist, available for the narcissist at their convenience. It can be an enmeshed parent/family member, another close friend, or at its worst, another intimate partner. 

Join me for an in-depth explanation of the first in The Narcissist’s Secrets Series: The First Secret: They Really, Really Can’t Do It Without You  Learn about covert and overt narcissism, why they are obsessed with power and authority, why they are afraid of vulnerability, and why their fragile personality is so dependent on external factors. I discussed several traits of a narcissist's relationships: a recurrent history of turbulent interpersonal relationships, constant denial, and the persecution complex. 

Some details on the infamous smear campaign. Enjoy!!

Enjoy this episode where I talk about triangulation and its many forms. Subscribe and rate this podcast!

Have you had a parent who has a dysfunctional relationship with your ex, leaving you in the dust? This episode is for you. I tell you my personal life experience in two separate occasions where it can be proven that this, indeed, is not normal, given context and the circumstances.  I start off with some basic points to discuss from when deciding on therapy/counseling, if you decide that is what is best for you. From the kinds of therapists you should consider, to support groups, it gives you an idea of what to seek and watch out for.  This episode poses an interesting aspect to the ever-continuing cycle of abuse and dysfunctionality- have you experienced an abusive ex who forms an eerily weird relationship with your parents, or abusive parents who form an eerily weird relationship with your ex? Why does this happen? Has this ever happened to you? Would you do this to your own children, given similar circumstances?  Enjoy, and follow me on all podcast platforms. Comment and rate. Questions and c

This podcast is about how to deal with Narcissists. Keep this in your purse, back-pocket, somewhere where you can retrieve it and remind yourself when dealing with these people.

In this episode I talk about the concept of gaslighting and why narcissistic people tend to re-emerge in our lives during the holidays. The term gaslighting is discussed. Abusers create/manipulate a gaslit environment so their target is powerless to fight back. I give several personal examples of this.  Victim vs. Survivor- for those of us who have experienced abuse and are learning about it and how to prevent it moving forward- we are survivors, not victims. The victims are the abusers- they have no control over their own environment and life, so they project their lack of control by controlling others in an abusive dynamic. They portray themselves as the victim of being powerless, over things they truly have power over.  Enjoy, listen and rate. Comments and questions can be sent to crossingtheline15@gmail.com. 

Did you know that narcissistic families have roles for their family members? Continue to listen!  I reflect on the prior podcast from 5/20/19 in this episode. Take a listen to that podcast, if you haven't yet.  The Piper Narcissistic Recovery Handbook- www.thenarcissisticmother.com  - available on Scribd.com.  It is ok to love those who are abusive, from afar. This can mean No Contact, or Low Contact.  Narcissistic and Abusive people have no self-awareness of their actions or words. They don't understand or comprehend narcissism, unless it is to their advantage.  Do you have a narcissistic mother? Narcissism exists on a spectrum, from benign to malignant. We all can exhibit some narcissistic traits- without being labeled or diagnosed as a "narcissist". Again, it's all on a spectrum.  We talk about narcissistic rage, as well as "supply". What is "supply"? It is viewed as attention (positive or negative), or admiration. 

Listen to my episode that talks about one of my passions- discussing and educating on toxic relationships, and in time for Mother's Day- toxic mothers.  Narcissism is a term that is way overused. There are a lot of people that deal with people that are toxic/dysfunctional, but true narcissism requires a diagnosis from a qualified professional.  I grew up with a toxic mother, who likely has some form of narcissism, even if just exhibiting strong narcissistic traits that affected her daily life, as well as those around her. According to one article, the average age of those who realize they have a toxic relationship in their life is 44 years old, and is usually a result of a traumatic life event in order to realize it! This needs to be changed- we should be educated on this, way before this age.  One of the classic signs of a narcissistic mother is pitting the siblings against each other. I talk about the "spider web" effect and the beginnings of the triangulation concept in abusive relationships

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