Marriage Radio: Helping Your Marriage

Choosing between lover or spouse – You have a decision to make.It may be that somebody has told you that you’re really not in love with this other person; that it’s a fantasy, that it’s infatuation, or that it will go away. You're trying to make a choice between whether to leave to be with your lover, or stay with your spouse. In other words, you’re married, but you’re thinking:“Maybe I should end the marriage and go to be with this other person because I’ve never felt love like this.”If you are in a situation where you're torn between a lover and your spouse, listen to this 20 minute episode where Dr. Joe Beam shares key things to consider when making this life changing decision.

There are some MAJOR misconceptions about what attraction is and why it matters.Often, attraction is seen as a physical connection or draw to someone...but it’s actually so much more than that. With the thousands of couples we’ve worked with, our principle about attraction helped them transform themselves AND their marriage.What is the principle? We have to first start at the beginning- the process of falling in love. Once you fall in love, continuing in this process leads you to fall deeper in love. However, if you do not continue the process, you can fall out of love. (And, it all starts with attraction.)What is attraction? We know it as the “PIES.” The four pieces of attraction are physical, intellectual, emotional, and spiritual.In this Quick Tips Relationship Radio episode, Kimberly Beam Holmes, shares how to attract your spouse back using these 4 key principles.

So you’ve heard of this word called “limerence.” (It sounds like some kind of disease, doesn’t it!) Maybe somebody told you, “You’re not in love. What you’re feeling is limerence.” And you’re thinking… “What’s the difference between love and limerence?” I'm here to help. In this Quick Tips episode of Relationship Radio, Dr. Joe Beam, explains the difference between love and limerence. Plus, he'll show you how limerence is this amazing sensation some people feel, but it’s a kind of love that won’t turn out like you expect it to… 

It is one of the most painful things you can experience. You probably think, “What happened to love...to trust?” You may feel anger, even rage. You may be questioning who you thought you married. You may even question yourself.Every day at Marriage Helper, we work with people in these EXACT situations. (And we’ve been doing so for over 20 years.) We understand that people may not want to get back together with their spouse. But since you have decided to listen to this episode, we ask, is there something inside you that – even in your hurt or anger – wants to know if there is a way to put your marriage back together?…or are you wanting to know if it even makes sense to try to do so?In today’s Quick Tips Relationship Radio episode, Dr. Joe Beam presents crucial points to consider when you’re trying to decide if you want to save your marriage. Visit marriagehelper.com/mini for your free mini-course today!

You probably never meant for it to happen. It’s not as if you went looking for a lover. However, once you fell in love with someone else other than your spouse, things got rather intense.It may be difficult for you to know exactly how you got into this situation.But no matter how you got here, there are 4 options you have moving forward.Listen to this Quick Tips episode by Dr. Joe Beam to learn  what to do if you're married but in love with someone else.

When you and your spouse are separated, it's hard to know what to do, what to say, how to act, and when to act.Don't worry, though! We are going to give you 5 key things to do when you are in a marriage separation that will help you starting NOW.Tune into this 14 minute Quick Tips Relationship Radio episode to learn how to save your marriage while separated.

Has your spouse had an affair and you want to get back at them?Can we be frank with you? You can’t “get back” at your spouse for having an affair… Whatever you may try to “get back” at them, it can never really satisfy your hurt and pain. Revenge doesn’t work and it can make things much WORSE.So what CAN you do? Is there anything that actually works? YES.Listen to this Quick Tips episode of Relationship Radio to find out what works better than revenge. 

This well-known saying is used a lot in reference to relationships, but is it actually true or helpful in any way?In this Quick Tips Relationship Radio episode, Dr. Joe Beam explains why this saying does NOT reflect true love, and what you should do to save the marriage if you truly love your spouse.

The first season of Relationship Radio has come to an end. In this episode, we share highlights from our most popular episodes including lessons about limerence, reconciliation, sexless marriages, how to save a failing marriage, and more. Learn research based principles that you can implement immediately to start growing or saving your marriage. What we teach will not only make your relationships better but will also help you become the best version of yourself along the wayIf you hear something in these episodes that sparks an interest, check out our full length episodes from this season. We can't wait to continue sharing more relationship content with you in the next season of Relationship Radio.Links:Get our FREE Mini Course “How To Get Your Spouse Back”Schedule a FREE Call with one of our Team MembersLearn more about our Save My Marriage CourseLearn more about our Reconciliation ToolkitLearn more about our Marriage Saving WorkshopsVisit our WebsiteLike us on FacebookFollow us on InstagramBecome The B

Is your spouse madly in love with someone else?If so, you may be asking yourself, "Does this mean my marriage is over?"The short answer is: No!In the last 25 years, we've worked with thousands of couples who have a spouse in "limerence."Through years of research and experience, we know that limerence is considered to be a kind of love, but we know that it has a shelf-life. In this 42 minute episode of Relationship Radio, Dr. Joe Beam and Kimberly Holmes share everything you need to know about limerence including how it starts, how it ends, and what to do in the meantime. Mentions:Read free articles and watch free videos hereLearn more about the Marriage Helper Couples Workshop hereFind out more information about our Solo Spouse Workshop hereAsk us your questions about marriageLearn how one spouse can save the marriage with our Save My Marriage Course

In this episode of Relationship Radio, Dr. Joe Beam talks to a couple who have overcome a controlling relationship and build a stronger marriage than ever before.At some point, you learn that no marriage is ever perfect. Vanessa believed that marriage would be like a fairy tale, and when she and Ryan got married, it would be happily ever after and all their problems would vanish. In his teens, Ryan struggled with his "raging male hormones" and pornography addiction. He thought marriage would be a sexual buffet and that he would be in control of his home. Listen to how they found Marriage Helper in a moment of desperation and how they survived the controlling relationship that was dooming them both to a future neither wanted. Mentions:Schedule a call with a Client Representative hereSubmit your marriage question here!Watch our free videos on YouTube hereRead free marriage articles on our websiteRequest to join our Save My Marriage Facebook Community GroupLearn more about our Save My Marriage CourseGe

If your spouse has left you and you’ve been working on becoming the best version of yourself, you may wonder, “What can I do to show my spouse that I have changed?”“How do I get them to see I’ve changed and come back home?”You want to change the trajectory of where your marriage is headed and bring your spouse back. But here’s the thing: Marriage difficulties typically do not occur overnight. And saving your marriage doesn’t either.If you want to solve your marriage issues, you must remember two key words: CONSISTENCY and TIME.Tune into this episode of Relationship Radio where Dr. Joe Beam and Kimberly Holmes share three key tips to drawing your spouse back and rebuilding love in your relationship.Mentions:Marriage Helper CoachingAsk Us Your Marriage Questions Here

Has your spouse had an affair? Do you feel like all hope for saving your marriage is lost?Jordan also felt like his marriage was over after he found out his wife, Priscilla, was having an affair. After years of sweeping marriage problems under the rug, Jordan and Priscilla found themselves at a point of crisis. Listen to this episode to learn how Jordan and Priscilla were able to overcome a limerent affair and achieve a marriage stronger than ever before.No matter what has happened in your marriage, there is hope. There is a way forward. We will show you how.Mentions:Learn more about our Online Couples Workshop here: https://marriagehelper.com/couples-workshop/Access our PIES course & SMART Contact Toolkit here: https://marriagehelper.com/product/smart-contact-toolkit-product/You can also find out more about PIES in "It Start with Attraction Podcast": https://piesuniversity.com/piescast/

Do you feel sexually rejected by your spouse?Maybe you've been feeling unhappy with your sex life for a long-period of time, or maybe you've just started feeling rejected...Your spouse seems uninterested in having sex and you don't know why. Here's the thing... Men and women are different when it comes to sex. But THIS is true for both spouses:Everything that happens outside the bedroom affects what happens inside the bedroom. And everything that happens inside the bedroom affects what happens outside the bedroom.Even if your sex life isn't where you want it to be right now, the spark in your marriage CAN be re-lit.In this episode of Relationship Radio, marriage experts Dr. Joe Beam and Kimberly Holmes share how to achieve marital satisfaction through sexual satisfaction. Links Mentioned:The Spark CourseCouples WorkshopSave My Marriage Course

Are you feeling stuck in your marriage? Do you feel like you cannot overcome the struggles that started the day you said "I Do"? In today's episode of Relationship Radio, Dr. Joe Beam interviews Karson and Ashley, a couple who overcame years of communication obstacles as well as an affair. If you're feeling like there is no hope for your marriage, listen to this testimony from a couple who experienced marriage troubles first-hand.Marriage CAN be brought back to life after years of hopelessness. Tune into this episode to learn how. Mentions:Learn more about our Save My Marriage Course here: https://marriagehelper.com/product/save-my-marriage/Find our PIES Bootcamp here: https://marriagehelper.com/product/pies-bootcamp/"Three Prayers About Love That God Won't Answer" Podcast Episode: https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/relationship-radio-marriage-sex-limerence-avoiding/id978519992?i=1000376905577Request to join our Save My Marriage Community Facebook Group here: https://www.

Are you struggling to trust your spouse after they were unfaithful to you? They broke your trust by having an affair, but they want to make your marriage work now. They are telling you that they've changed, but you're worried they might hurt you all over again.You may be asking yourself..."Is it possible to ever trust my spouse again?" "How can I make sure they don't hurt me this time?"The good news is... Trust CAN be rebuilt. It's not easy.  But it IS possible. There is a path and a way to move forward.+ AND it is worth it.Listen to this 1 hour episode of Relationship Radio where Dr. Joe Beam and Kimberly Holmes share specific steps for how to rebuild trust after an affair.Links Mentioned:Submit Your Marriage Question HereSchedule a Call With a Client RepresentativeMarriage Helper's YouTube ChannelPIES University: It Starts With AttractionThe Art of Falling In Love BookFree Mini CourseXXX Church Sex Help Sexaholics Anonymous Samson Society & Samson and the Pir

Sometimes you may wonder, "What's the story of real people that you guys at Marriage Helper help?" We've given countless illustrations of marriages saved, but in this episode, you can hear from a couple first-hand about how they were able to save their marriage.In this episode, Dr. Joe Beam interviews Ren & Adelé, a couple whose marriage was impacted by multiple affairs as well as addictions. Listen to this episode for an incredible testimony of reconciliation and redemption filled with lessons of communication, forgiveness, hope, and more.Mentions:Access our SMART Contact and PIES courses here: https://marriagehelper.com/product/smart-contact-toolkit-product/You can also find out more about PIES in "It Start with Attraction Podcast": https://piesuniversity.com/piescast/Learn more about our Online Couples Workshop here: https://marriagehelper.com/couples-workshop/Find our question topic of the week and submit your question here: https://marriagehelper.com/ask-your-marriage-qu

You want to save your marriage, but your spouse has made it clear that he/she wants out. Maybe they’ve already filed for divorce.Maybe you are separated and living in separate places. Maybe they’re still living with you but are saying they’re done.But you want the marriage to work. So what do you do?You may be asking yourself…“Is it even possible to save a marriage when my spouse wants out?” “Can a failing marriage be saved? If so, how?” “Can it be saved even if there’s been an affair?”On this episode of Relationship Radio, Dr. Joe Beam & Kimberly Holmes talk about how to save a marriage in turmoil. Even if your spouse has already made up their mind about wanting to separate, there IS hope. One spouse CAN save the marriage. We will show you how in today’s episode of Relationship Radio.Links Mentioned:Save My Marriage CourseIntervention ToolsPIES University: It Starts With Attraction"What Is Love?" EpisodeFree Mini Course

We hear from people who say things like, "My spouse is involved with another person, but also seems interested in me. Is this something other people face?"The answer is... Absolutely. As a matter of fact, we have a name for it. We call it "The Valley."Your spouse is having a good relationship with the affair partner as well as with the spouse that is being abandoned. This double life has pros and cons. The pro can be that he or she is spending time with you, and if it appears to be working well. As long as you can tolerate this, it may well be to your advantage. It can with time bring him home. The con is that he is still with the other woman or man, and that relationship may be going well also. If so, he won’t feel any need to change anything.If your spouse is in The Valley, you may be feeling confused.Your spouse is doing things that lead you to believe your marriage is going to end. Yet, at the same time, they may be showing signs they don't want to let go of you. The Valley is abo

All the time people come to us saying, "We tried to reconcile, but it's just impossible. We got back together thinking we can do it, then it didn't work.”You know why? Because they didn't know how.Think about it like this… Imagine you want to replace the spark plugs in your car. You can have every intention of doing it. But if you don’t know how or where the spark plugs even are... You’re gonna fail.People are blindsided because they think they’re reconciling when they're not. So how can you know if you’re actually reconciling or not? Or how to make it happen?These people struggled but figured it out with our help:“We had been to three different marriage counselors in the first 10 years of our marriage. We got like one decent takeaway. There was just so much pain, so much hurt. It just seemed impossible.”“We're sitting here seven years later, and it is a daily impact on our marriage, on our children, regardless  of how lost, how broken, how hopeless you believe the circumstances.