In The Trenches With The Toulons

The Toulons discuss the results of sleeping naked and thoughts on men being the sole spender. What is too much, going to far and being ungrateful when it comes to the man paying for everything in "dating". Thank you for @i_am_jperry on instagram for the video, it really did work!!  Subscribe, Rate and Comment!!

This turkey inspired episode, the Toulons give thanks for each other and play 21 Questions. Please Trench Family be safe this holiday with traveling and fellowshiping. Have a Happy Thanksgiving and let us all pray that this year, for me, the xmas music will not start on November 23rd. Subscribe if you haven't, unless you want your 2019 to be terrible. Like any of the episodes? Or if you just love us, please comment and rate.    

Jumping into the Trenches this episode is married couple, Marissa and Gerard. Married for 14 years, these two show that being more self aware and in tuned to your partner can make for a happily ever after. We discuss making yourself happy, putting yourself before the kids, as well as knowing what battles to fight.  Please check out Gerard's podcast - "The Board Meeting" http://www.themakingsofaman.com/category/podcast/ Books Mentioned this episode: 1.The Making of a Man by Jabari Price, Michael Holoman & Gerard Droze https://www.amazon.com/Makings-Man-Jabari-Price-ebook/dp/B004GXAYJY/ref=sr_1_2?s=digital-text&ie=UTF8&qid=1454729876&sr=1-2 2. The Making of a Dream by Jabari Price, Michael Holoman & Gerard Droze https://www.amazon.com/Makings-Man-Jabari-Price-ebook/dp/B004GXAYJY/ref=sr_1_2?s=digital-text&ie=UTF8&qid=1454729876&sr=1-2  

The Toulons welcome Marcel to the trenches this week and Marcel takes them on the journey of being a young, single black Queer man in DC. In this episode you will hear us talk about not catching feelings for the unstable, new generation mental disorders, racism in the community, and some advice for other singles. Look out for Marcel's podcast coming this February, "Colored Pages Book Club"  

This week, the Toulons sit down with Therapist Stephanie D Walthour. Stephanie is a Licensed Marriage & Family Therapist, as well as a certified Sex Therapist. In this episode we discuss what therapy is and why its beneficial to go. In addition, reasons why a person would need a sex therapist and being a partner & not a parent to your spouse. You can contact Stephanie at www.intimacycenterga.com, @imtimacytherapyga on instagram and facebook. Mentioned in this episode: Love on Top - Married couples trip to Jamaica http://loveontop.nxleveltravel.com "His needs, her needs" By Willard E Harley Jr Therapy for Black Girls www.therapyforblackgirls.com Psychology Today www.psychologytoday.com Partner vs Parent https://www.mentalhelp.net/blogs/when-relationship-partners-act-like-parents-or-children-towards-one-another/      

In this episode, the Toulons discuss expressing themselves within their marriage, showing where improvements can & have been made. They encourage everyone to express themselves, regardless of what the outcome may be. -Feedback is welcomed -Don't forget to submit for single of the week -Subscribe if you haven't already, rate comment and tell a friend.  

Are we just having sex or are we going to be in a relationship?? Jumping into the Trenches this week, Nyesha and Samantha took us on the journey of how this conversation went, and what happened afterwards. From moving in after 5months, seizures, family rejection, conceiving a baby, seeing the light and starting their own podcast.   Hey Trench Nation!! If you enjoyed this episode, please tell a friend. Also don't forget to subscribe, rate and comment.  

Bonus episode just to give an update how our experience went with the "Sleep out 4 a night in support of homeless families" event went. The Nicholas House in Atlanta, Ga every years does a fundraiser and Sleep out for one night to raise funds. All of it is in support of getting and keeping families from being homeless. This started out, just a volunteer event, but it turned out to be so much more to us. Thank you again to everyone who Donated and help us exceed our goal. Love you all Trench Family!

THE BIG 2...5!!! We getting grown, lol. In this episode the Toulons touch on a subject that will kill any relationship because no good can come from it, COMPARING. We all have done it, and if you haven't, DONT! The Toulons discussed comparing sexually, emotionally, and environmentally. At the end of the day, be happy with who and what you have, and if you aren't, work on it until you are. Don't think the grass is greener because of what you see, because you don't know what happens behind closed doors.

In this very fun episode, The Toulons sit with Justin & Gin and listen to how its been smooth sailing since day 1. From Justin being the hilarious asshole to Gina being sweet as pie, you can see how the two balance each other and make it all work. "You just gotta f*&#ing chill man", as Justin stated. Some advise the couple gave, was to be friends, don't take everything so serious and just take it one day at a time.  Hope you enjoyed this episode. Don't forget to tell a friend, subscribe, rate and comment. Also, this is the last week to help Us make our goal of $1,000.00 for the Nicholas House, Helping families get back on their feet. Please find it in your heart to donate and support someone getting another chance. offthestreetontheirfeet2018.causevox.com/TrenchesPodcast  

In this episode, Touly & Ralph discuss what their parents may have inadvertently taught them about stress, spending and communicating. The couple talk about how these factors has manifest themself in their lives and the impact.   Enjoyed the episode??? Please tell a friend, and don’t forget to subscribe, rate and comment. You can listen every Monday and any of the podcast platforms.

Jaired & Britney jumped into the trenches with the Toulons all the way from the D, Detroit that is. This young couple celebrated the eve of their 3 year anniversary telling us why self reflection, individual therapy and putting in the work has them coasting through marriage right now. The couple provided two books that they read in preparation for a successful relationship/marriage, "Things I'd Wish I'd known Before We Got Married" and "The 5 Love Languages" by Gary Chapman. If you enjoyed this episode please tell a friend. If this is your first time jumping into the Trenches with us, thank you and please subscribe to the podcast on any of the podcast platforms.

In this episode, Jean & Fatimah take us on their journey from playing hard to get to, married with children and having a better relationship with God. Jean & Fatimah are another example of, it not starting perfect, but how it works out perfectly. If you are new to the Trenches, please Subscribe, Rate and Comment. If you are coming back to jump into the Trenches with us each week, if you liked this episode please tell a friend. :)

In Part 1 of this Episode, "Save the Date or Nah" the Toulons discuss with two singles why neither of them see the need for Marriage to be the "Happily Ever After." Hazel & E Rob believe they have it all and don't see how a piece of paper is going change that with the right person. Books Mentioned in this episode: "Getting the love you want" by Harville Hendrix "Crucial Conversations" by Joseph Grenny, Al Switzler, Ron McMillan

Anniversary Episode, the day we've all been waiting for! In this episode, Touly and Ralph will discuss the highlights of their first year of marriage. Although marriage and relationships are work, there is a lot of good that comes from that work.

In this session of In the Trenches with the Toulons, we chat about how Social Media is Killing Relationships. The Toulons Topic this episode come by an article from Elite Daily, "How Social Media is Killing Relationships and Making Our Breakups Even Worse" By Jen Soule. In this article Jen mentions eight reasons, you should lay off the social media if you don't want to ruin your relationship and suffer a breakup that's even worse than it should be. 1.ITS DISTRACTING US FROM ACTUALLY SPENDING TIME 2. WE'RE STALKING EACH OTHER 3. WE'RE OVERSHARING 4. WE'RE BECOMING ADDICTED TO ATTENTION 5.TINDER EXISTS. 6. WE COMPARE OUR RELATIONSHIPS TO OTHERS. 7. WE JUMP TO CONCLUSIONS 8. WE FOCUS ON STRANGERS' LIVES RATHER THAN OUR OWN https://www.elitedaily.com/dating/social-media-killing-relationships-breakups-worse/1586556  

They are back!!!! Ralph and Touly in this episode relate their first year of marriage to the article, "10 Lessons from the first year of marriage, by Matt Paolelli". You will hear Touly attempting to throw his lovely wife under the bus but that same bus ends up being for him. The couple talk about how laughter has been the best medicine for them and the growth in themselves individually to be the best spouse to their partner. Its still not perfect, there is even more work that needs to be done, but they are working at it together and making it the best marriage for them. Please remember if you or someone you know is celebrating a anniversary (relationship or marriage), engagement or wedding please lets us know so that we can shout them out on the show. If sending pictures, we will post on our social media platforms. If you enjoyed this episode, please tell your friends and family. Article from this episode: https://medium.com/personal-growth/10-lessons-from-the-first-year-of-marriage-eb0961efacd5  

Jumping into the Trenches this week with the Toulons, is Curtis and Danielle. This married couple of 9 years takes us on their journey in truly showing the growth of a relationship and the marriage. Curtis and Danielle admit to both being dangerously childish from throwing knives, moving furniture, damaging each other belongings and having your children put the mirror up to show you who you really are. The couple touch on why they don't suggest people getting married before 30, getting to know who YOU really are before walking down the aisle, and using all your resources to come together to make this thing work. At the end of the day, the couple want you to know through their story that marriage is work and sometimes you just gotta pull out the "pink thing" :) In this episode references: https://www.thelovedarebook.com - Link to the book mentioned in this episode. The movie is "Fire proof" and the book that goes along with it "Love Dare". If you enjoyed this episode, please tell a friend. See you in the Trenc

Chris and Steph journey continues with the hurdles that they over come in their 8 year marriage. Chris and Steph express team work it takes to work through the tough times and shine like nothing ever happened. Chris said it best, "If you see us doing something good, then there were hurdles that were overcome". Hope their story helps someone wanting to be married, engaged or already married going through the storm. Thank you jumping into the trenches with us each week!! Remember to Subscribe, Rate, Comment and tell a friend.

Chris and Steph in part 1 jump into the trenches with us, sharing their rocky journey in the first year of marriage. Expressing how everything that may look perfect, may at one time geared the heavy storms before the rainbow. Chris and Steph take us through the engagement, wedding day DIY lip fillers, honeymoon insurance, house but not our home and miscarriages. Please remember to Subscribe, Rate and Comment. Tell a friend, family member, or co-worker to jump into the trenches with us each week as we pull the curtain back on what marriage really looks like.