Social Confidence For Life

Does it feel like some invisible force is yanking you from just jumping into a conversation, sharing your perspective, telling jokes and otherwise being spontaneous? Join Josh Valentine in this episode where he shares how to deal with anxiety and become outgoing so nothing can stop you from building connections, friendships, and relationships. 

So how much are you held back from expressing yourself freely in any social situation because of your fear of potential rejection or disapproval from others, or in some way not getting the responses that you want? Join Josh Valentine in this episode where he shares how to eliminate your fear of rejection so nothing stops you from showing up powerfully as your most bold, authentic self in your social life, dating life, career life, and all other areas of life that matter most to you. 

It's super limiting to believe you are stuck in anxiety, be terrified of rejection, and be overly nice, people pleasing, and approval seeking. Don't you just wish you could turn that all around to be free to be who you are, expressing yourself however you want to? Join Josh Valentine in this episode where he shares 3 core tips to overcome shyness and anxiety fast!

If you were honest with yourself, would you say that work is a scary place because you worry that you'll do something that will displease your boss and then he or she will fire you? Do you take on too many demands trying to look good to your boss or supervisor, but you never really feel like you are enough? Join Josh Valentine in this episode where he guides you on how to eradicate anxiety and instill a deep sense of confidence at work. 

Do you find it difficult to join group conversations at social gatherings whether it's with strangers or people you know? Do you hesitate to insert yourself when people are talking? Join Josh Valentine in this episode where he guides you on how to overcome being left out so you can get to the next level of your boldness and authenticity. 

Do you ever find yourself in situations where you want to say no, disagree, or make your own choice, but because you want to be nice and not offend others, you feel incapable of doing what you REALLY want to do, and instead end up being overly nice and people pleasing? Join Josh Valentine in this episode where he'll lay out a simple and powerful 5-step path toward becoming less nice and more you!

How many times have you wanted to enter a social situation, but then your fear of what others might think and the potential for rejection caused you to pull a mission abort? Join Josh Valentine in this impactful episode where he guides you through 4 highly effective steps to eradicate anxiety and instill confidence!

Tired of not standing up to criticism or bullies because you're afraid to confront them or don't know what to say? Check out "5 Ways To Instantly Dissolve Criticism" to learn how to neutralize criticism with confidence and strategy. 

FACT: Better Conversations = A Better Life. More Success And More Fun Include Conversations For The Most Part. To Polish Up Your Conversations, Check Out "4 Steps To Initiate And Maintain Conversations!"

The more social power we can generate and build over time, the more fun we can have in social interactions. And improving our social interactions is one way to drastically boost the quality of our lives. An important question to ask is, “How can I build my social ability to connect?”  Before I made it a point and mission in life to consistently build my social capacity, I was limited in my ability to enter any conversation because of my fear of judgement, criticism, disapproval, and a doubt in myself that I’d be good enough in interactions. Then… I started treating social power like a muscle and found the tools and exercises that work to build it. Here Are 6 Ways To Generate Social Power => 1. Get free of feeling scared about what others will think about you. In order to exercise this in your life, apply the “If, Then Technique.” This works by asking, “If I say/do this, then what will happen (fill in what you think they’ll say or think about you)?” After you come up with your fear of what they’ll say/think ab

How are you in the process of getting things you want badly? Do you patiently wait out the journey? Or do you feel like you can’t get there fast enough to the point that you start feeling terrible about yourself for not having the results you want? Perfectionism is harming your sense of self-worth until you get the outcome you want, and most people are stuck doing this- in fact, there will always be perfectionist tendencies at every level in our growth. The more ambitious we become, the more a part of us wants to go faster and get the results ASAP! What’s important is that we 1) catch ourselves in perfectionism and then, 2) let it go so we can enjoy working toward our goals without dealing with feeling terrible for not having what we want yet. Feeling like a loser for not progressing “fast enough” is super discouraging and eventually causes us to give up if we don’t relax that part of ourselves because it gets stronger the longer we leave it unattended to. It’s like a little kid shouting to his mother who d

Today, we are discussing how to feel like you are enough. This is extremely important because if we carry around the energy that we are inadequate, then we reinforce the self-fulfilling prophecy that we are not enough. This is because when we don’t get the outcomes we want, then we take that is further proof that we aren’t enough. It becomes easier to say, “You see? I knew I wasn’t good enough. Things don’t tend to go my way.” And with this attitude, we bring more of these outcomes into our lives almost like we are seeking them (well… because we are! It’s a subtle way of showing you are angry at life). That being said, do you currently feel like you are not enough in any area of your life that matters most to you? Are you enough around people? Are you enough around people you are attracted to? Key Areas I Felt I Wasn’t Good Enough Included: – I didn’t think I was attractive. This made me hesitant in approaching the women I was into. – I thought I wasn’t muscular enough, therefore people don’t take me seriousl

Today, we are discussing how to overcome shyness fast and improve our first impressions while we are at it. This is important because if we want to handle the area of connecting with others and being engaging, then we have to start with becoming more extroverted.  Back in my more inhibited days of shyness, feeling depressed, and being low on energy, I couldn’t handle social gatherings like parties very well. I’d have to find that 1 or 2 people I knew and stay glued to them as my safe haven! As a consequence, I didn’t meet new people, and they didn’t get to know me. I was also easily embarrassed and quick to judge myself, so that made me want to stay to myself in case people think I’m weird for being me and socializing.  It was very uncomfortable, and I would usually end up leaving these social gathering super early within the first 15 minutes to crawl back to safety where I didn’t feel so critical of myself.  It got to a point where I knew I had to do something about this shyness or I’d never make progress in

Have you ever frozen up in a social setting? Maybe you get a reaction that you didn’t want or someone appears to be disinterested in what you say and you freeze up and don’t know how to proceed in a conversation. And you seem to be stuck in a loop of over analyzing and filtering out your ideas of what to say next. Perhaps, sometimes you freeze up before you even initiate a conversation. We all have something that scares us, whether it be approaching a gorgeous stranger or sharing an exciting idea at work, but it can be incredibly frustrating to feel stuck as if we are just out of reach with those things we most want. You may even feel that your throat tightens, your body gets tense, and your mind just generally goes blank. Back when I would freeze up in conversations, even if I managed to start an interaction strong and confidently, something would happen that would cause me to start judging my behavior. Judging what I say, how I look, and ultimately how well received I am. Maybe I tell a joke doesn’t land

Today, we are discussing How To Handle Criticism With Confidence. This is important because if we don’t develop our ability to handle criticism, we will buy into it and make it true, which gives our power away to people so that whatever their criticism of us is, we automatically believe it. So if they say you are weird, boring or awkward, you would just believe it and feel it’s anti-loving energy in your body. Also, if people judge your passions, interests, or dreams to be weird or not right for you, then you would agree with them and give them up. Even if we get angry and repudiate their criticism, we are angry because a part of is taking their criticism and criticizing ourselves with it. One type of criticism I struggled to handle was getting feedback that I was being awkward, boring, or embarrassing. This could be directly said to me or shown in peoples’ facial expressions. As soon as I perceived that people thought of me as awkward, boring, or embarrassing, I would make what I thought was their reality

Do you want to feel more confident and loved? Do  you want to know that people find you attractive and want to spend time with you? Do you want to feel like you are good enough? There’s actually a ton of love in the world for you, but if you don’t let it in, you don’t feel it. It’s like drinking water with the thinnest straw when we don’t let love in. The water represents love and the straw represents how much we receive love. You truly are deeply loved. You just have to let it in. When I was in high school, I developed a disgust for hugs and touching. I didn’t like people getting close to me. This occurred after my dad passed away from colon cancer when I was 14. There was a family- the Griffeths, who took me in to help me through my difficult times. And they were a huggy family. And that was so uncomfortable for me. Every night before bed, they had this ritual of hugging everyone, and I used to run away. Turns out, they were showing me I was loved, but I wasn’t receiving it because I didn’t believe it for

Do you feel fearful, hesitant, or unsure about saying what you really want to? Do you struggle to speak up powerfully, clearly and directly for your desires so people know your real self whether that’s in your social life, dating life, or career life? Back when I was held back from speaking up, I was at lunch one time with some friends and Brandon who was the leader of our crew because he was the most outspoken, boisterous, and charismatic, turned to me and said, “You know what, Josh? You don’t say much, but everyone needs someone like you as a friend.” That really annoyed me because he was pointing out that I didn’t contribute much to conversations, and I was only really useful because I was quiet and always there to listen to him talk. Yuck! That is not what I want to be known for! I was also held back from speaking up in my dating life. I struggled to communicate clearly, powerfully, and directly my more intimate thoughts. As a consequence, I always eventually ended up becoming a really good friend to wo

Is a fear of rejection or failure holding you back from taking the action you want to in life? Is it holding you back from being authentic and connecting with others? Is it stopping you from making friends, getting to know someone you find attractive, or being more known and sharing more value in your career? Today I’ll be sharing the solution to the fear of rejection or failure so you can feel comfortable being who you are in any conversation talking to anyone, no matter how attractive or popular, and even if you get rejected or fail at something like messing up a joke or a sales presentation. Imagine a friend who comes to you and shares vulnerably with you that he is scared about asking someone attractive out. How would you encourage and comfort your friend? If you told him to just ignore his fear, brush off the fear, and to just go for it, is he going to be miraculously cured of his anxiety? Is he gonna go, “oh that’s how you get rid of fear- just stop feeling scared. Wow, thanks, your a life saver!”? No

Today, we are discussing letting go, how to heal. This is important because if we ever want to reach a place of peace and relaxation in our social life, dating life, career life, any area of life, then we need to actively let go of our anxieties, embarrassment, jealousy, anger, stress, fears of rejection and failure, etc. When we experience negative feelings but don’t let go and try to force them away, we become more and more self-implosive like a volcano that becomes more and more likely to erupt. This is so because we can’t avoid feelings inside of us. You can’t run away from your psychology. You can’t run from yourself. Our negative feelings are like a little child throwing a temper tantrum. In order to calm this little child down, we need to give him or her focus, love, and attention. We need to send out the positive energy that we are here and won’t go anywhere. And we will get through this. I’ve got you. It’s okay. You are strong. If we ignore a little child in distress, whatever he is experiencing wi

Are you held back by self-doubt in any area of your life that matters the most to you? Do you have desires that you have quit pursuing because you doubt it’s possible for you? Do you hold back when it comes to dating and personal relationships? Today is all about freeing yourself from the doubts that prevent you from getting what you want in life. The biggest mistake people make when it comes to dealing with self-doubt is they start to argue with it and challenge it as though it holds validity. Self: She is attractive. I’m going to talk to her. Self-doubt: She is going to reject you. Self: Why? You don’t know that. Self-doubt: Yes I do. Self: I’m an interesting person. She’ll like me. Self-doubt: She’s WAY out of your league. Self: No she’s not. I’m just as worthy of her attention here as any other guy. Self-doubt: Oh is that what you think? You aren’t as good looking or make as much money as most of those other guys. Self: Maybe I’ll just wait and see if she notices me… And just like that, the champion tit