Adulting With Ebonie

In this episode I had the pleasure of chatting with my Dad, as a special for Father's day.It was a real and raw look at what fathering means in the past, now and looking forward into the future.Listen on for:How becoming a father affects the integrity and the freedom of life The embodiment of fatheringLessons from 40 years of fathering The differentiation between being a man and the masculineRelationship and sexuality and the differences within the generational culturesThe idea of Fathering as we move forwardThe journey of individuationAbout AlainToday’s guest was encouraged to follow a traditional education and career path but wandered off track from his late teens, unable to tame his free spirit and conform to ways of living that were inauthentic for him. Way ahead of his time, he dropped out of Oxford University and began a long process of selective self education to support his wish to live in alignment with Truth and Creative Integrity.He studied and practiced a variety crafts and disciplines i

Consciousness, being AWAKE, isn’t ‘love & light’ and it certainly isn’t ‘we are all one’ - yet. Being AWAKE means advocating for those that you can assist in affecting change. It means recognising that none of us are free or thriving until ALL OF US ARE.Listen on for:An introduction to Misfit for Life TVWhat does WAKING UP truly meanWhat our job is as spiritual beingsHow we need to feel in order to healWhat being Maven meansHow being AWAKE means advocatingThe importance of doing the personal development work in order to create change!Overriding the "I can't" voices in your head so that YOU CAN!Links & resources mentioned in this episode:Misfit For Life TVAdditional goodies:Find out more at www.ebonieallard.com/podcast

You do know what you want, you just haven't taken the time to actually sit and create an intimate relationship with your inner world.In this episode we dive deep into discovering our joy and pleasure, how you can live a deliciously adult life and how you can really learn to love yourself.Listen on for:Life being about Responsibility that gets to come with joy and pleasureHow we can use the law of attractionHow the Groove came about?Embodying the principles of being a delicious adult.Disappointment in relationships.Activating your sexual energy. Learning to love yourself in order to love othersFinding the way back to connecting to your desires. The power of dance and movementWhat happens when you really listen to what you really want Asking yourself questions to learn where you really want to be.Meet Misty Tripoli:Misty is the Founder of The World Groove Movement, Creator of The Groove Method, Body Groove and an International Presenter, Body Image truth talker, Lover of LOVE and warrior for TRUT

If I’m a full human being I should be able to feel a full range of emotions with different levels of intensities.In this episode, we talk recovery and how it impacts those who go through it, as well as what you can do to begin reclaiming your life.Listen on for:Changing the language of adulting and perceived responsibilityReclaiming your power in self-careOvercoming the shame of going through recoveryDealing with the grief of the loss in your own lifeUnderstanding the route you take to reclaiming your lifeBeing comfortable and okay with experiencing all levels of emotionsUnderstanding and learning to experience real intimacyUsing feminine energy to guide us back to who we areUsing ancient tools to heal the masculine in menUsing humility and vulnerability to be of service to personal healingMeet Michael Maisey:Michael is the author of Young Offender, Founder of The CIP Project, Sober for 12 Years, a Dad to two daughters. He is a Self Development Coach, Motivational Speaker, Creator and Host of The Free 'T

Tattoos are a deep form of self-expression in a world that's trying to tell us to be anything but ourselves.In this episode, we’re diving into the world of tattoos, the incredible journey that tattoos can take us on, and the many taboos still associated with tattoos today.Listen on for:Tattoos and their Cultural associationsThe deep feeling of wanting to belongThe journey tattooing takes us throughThe assumptions and stereotypes connected to having tattoosHow the way you work your way up has changedThe etiquette surrounding finishing other artists workWhat it's like being a tattooed personThe dark world of copyright and ownership of your artHow values within the industry have changed over the yearsMeet L'ain Freefall:L’ain Freefall is an international tattoo artist who has worked in tattoo shops all over the world. She’s been featured in countless tv, film, magazines and media (you might have seen her in star wars). She’s a renaissance woman, a traveller and a gypsy witch.Links & resources mentioned

Sharing stories, and listening at a higher level will unlock your world!In this episode, we’re diving into how podcasting can feel like therapy, and how learning to truly listen to others can unlock a whole new world for you.Listen on for:Podcasting is a way to record and share a legacy and a story that lastsThat learning to truly listen can unlock a new worldListening and interviewing without ego How podcasting is a dance in creating containers and allowing space for sinking into the flow of creationThat so much about life is trial and error and learning to surrenderHow coming from service and without agenda leads to deeper serviceUnderstanding that society tries to box us in and tell us we are something we’re notThe impact bullying has on us, especially around identityUsing therapy as a real tool for personal understandingHow you should definitely launch a podcast as a tool for therapy Meet Luca Olias:Luca is the host of the podcast 'Guards of Eden' which is based around sharing the journey's of p

If you struggle in the face of uncertainty, this one’s for you.Learn how uncertainty can be a good thing, and how you can alchemise uncertainty into surety, and begin the process of creating the life you want and deserve today.Listen on for:Discover and follow the process of creation and manifestationUnderstanding your relationship with uncertaintyThe contradiction of our existenceKnow the duality of desireHow survival is success to your brainLetting go of our stories so we can be in creation modeDiscover how uncertainty can actually be AWESOMEUnderstand the energetics of intention and attentionWhat and where is the path of least resistance to your dreamThe power of community and how it can supercharge your growthLinks & resources mentioned in this episode:Your Thing, Sure ThingAdditional goodies:Find out more at www.ebonieallard.com/podcast

You’re not going to know if it works until you try it!We are all trying to run a business that’s never been done before, in a world that’s constantly changing, yet trying to find a finite solution to make us successful.In this episode, we’re diving into the importance of CONNECTION and how by focusing on yourself (and the 100 people who need you most) you can create a business of truth and purpose.Listen on for:The key to mustering motivation on a daily basisThe 2 questions that will give you the answers to connection, business and lifeThe impact of distractionOur thoughts on doing what you want to do, being who you want to be, and living our artThe danger of implementing tactics, positioning and messaging that isn’t true to youWhy blaming yourself for a lack of results is a pointless processThe importance of loving the fuck out of your peopleHow awareness and understanding of ourselves is the ultimate currencyHow to deliver the true you to the worldHow to become a masterful storyteller (rather than a boring

If you lack confidence in yourself or the Universe, this one’s for you.My purpose is to work with the misfits and the magic-makers and support, activate and inspire you so that you have the foundations and the tools to show up and do “your thing”.Listen on for:What to do when you feel like you’re not enough (despite doing all the personal and business development work).How to adult the fuck up.Everything I’m going to give you to activate and inspire you. The information you don’t need in order to step into your true potential.Your next steps if your life doesn’t look like anyone else’s version.What to do when you don’t know what “your thing” is.What will make you feel proud, happy, fulfilled and creative.How to create the kind of business that allows you to take time away.Links & resources mentioned in this episode:Your Thing, Sure ThingAdditional goodies:Find out more at www.ebonieallard.com/podcastThe one about choosing yourselfThe one about living richly (with Allison Braun)The one about personal

In this episode, we’re diving into entrepreneurship from an Asian female perspective.As kickass and kind humans, I feel that it’s so important to be open to hearing stories from people with different life experiences, and that’s one of the reasons I was so excited to speak to this week’s guest.We’re talking about some of the cultural stereotypes vs. the realities of growing up as a woman in a Sikh Punjabi household. We’re also diving into inclusivity in business, in the media and onstage… and what we can all to make sure that everyone is represented.Listen on for:The impact growing up in a strict family can have on your identityHow you can find your confidence through the right relationshipsOur thoughts on challenging social and cultural normsThe importance of a clear yes and a clear noThe many faces of manifestationRecognising privileges that you may not even realise you haveOur thoughts on inclusion and diversity in the event spaceThe most effective way to have these conversations without naming and shaming

The world is changing fast, and old patriarchal systems are being replaced with something new.Over the last few weeks we’ve had a chance to slow down, to listen, and to observe some of our own truths, and in this episode I discuss what it means to truly step into trusting ourselves and source, and taking inspired action in a time that feels uncertain. Listen on for:How this time is making us unable to hide from our shadowsHow not everything new and different is bad, sometimes it’s really coolThe joining of energies to create a space that can hold you completelyThis time can be about giving you the strength to take off your armourYou’re allowed to be messier, more chaotic, and fully express yourselfThe safety of a true container created for you to be fully yourself, can help you face things that ordinarily would feel too muchBeing able to completely drop societal expectations about “who” we should beThe choice to act on the wisdom of the universe without knowing what comes nextWhat it’s like to trust your

Do you feel responsible for your own feelings and circumstances right now?In this episode, I’m joined by Nick North to talk about responsibility, ownership and validation (among other things). We’re diving into how each of these topics show up in our relationships, in our families and in our own identities.Listen on for:Our thoughts on responsibility, and teaching our families to own theirsThe impact of focusing on getting validation from others (and boundaries for making that okay)The concept of an exploding doormat (i.e. the Misfit MO!)How to take responsibility for ourselves when that’s not what we’re used toAn amazing tool for handling conflict and compromise in your relationshipsThe difference between being in a relationship as a woman and being in a relationship as a manUnderstanding our privilege and how we can use that for the highest goodMeet NickNick North is a dude, a husband, a dad to 5 kids and a Branding Strategist. He also has a history of living as a woman, a wife, a mom, a photographer and ev

Shame and guilt are two of the topics I get asked to talk about most frequently, so in this episode, I’m delivering!When we feel feelings of shame, it’s often attached to a feeling of vulnerability, which can often be interpreted as weakness… but we get to flip the script on that. And while guilt is typically less painful than shame (because we see it as being more useful) it can still have a negative impact on our businesses and lives.In this episode, I’m pulling apart the strands of shame, guilt, vulnerability and judgement and talking about how we can make moves towards a more value filtered life.Listen on for:What shame and guilt actually are (and what the difference is)How you can alchemise some of those things you feel ashamed of and turn them into superpowersSelf-awareness and personal responsibility are where it’s at. Blame does not remove shame!What happens when you go against your (or someone else’s) valuesHow to shift our feelings of shame and guiltSociety’s role in our feelings of shame and guiltT

There’s a lot of conditioning that’s been going on for the past few hundred years with regards to masculinity and femininity - with what it means to be a man and what it means to be a woman.Gender identity is a broad and complex topic, and in this episode we’re scratching the surface and talking about expressing and embodying the aspects of masculine and feminine energy that are US at our core.Meet Jonathan BealA mentor and coach for men, Jonathan has spent over 10 years in the personal development space, he believes in supporting men in the mental, emotional and physical adventure & exploration that brings men to full embodiment, that ultimately brings them home to the truth of who they really are.Jonathan’s websiteListen on for:What we’re taught about gender from a societal perspective (and how it’s bullshit)The evolution of the conversations we (as a society) have been having around gender, and sexuality and relationship dynamics.The colour and diversity of gender identity (and how we’ll never get bore

Are you living a value filtered life?If you follow me on Instagram, you’ll have heard me talk about Value Filters and value filtered living… but what does that really mean?In this episode, I’m pulling back the curtain and sharing the story of the Value Filter System and how you can use it to create a life that feels good to you. Listen on for:What values really are (you might be surprised!) and how they intertwine with your beliefsWhat the Value Filter System is, and what value filtered living really meansThe two types of beliefs you have, and how to make sure you’re focusing on the ones that will support your growthA peek at my Value Filter and how it came to beThe fundamental difference between human needs and human valuesThe truth about what you’re seeking, the expression of your masculine energy, and the expression of your feminine energyHow to find your “yes” and your “no”Links & resources mentioned in this episode:MBITThe Value Filter MasterclassMisfit to Maven (the book!)Recommended Episodes:T

In this week's episode, I'm chatting with Sally Manners and we’re diving into how we process and recover from trauma, and how we can turn everything around and create a life that feels as good on the inside as it looks on the outside.Long term single mamma, life long hustler, business owner, hypnotherapist & NLP coach, Sally Manners is a woman on a quest for connection, healing, community, female empowerment and fuck loads of love. 'Manners London' (her clothing label) is a women's designer clothing brand for the curvy lady, making women of all shapes feel beautiful and empowered.Listen on for:How we get to adult for ourselves, as well as for our loved ones.The perception of adulting we have as kids, and how that evolves as we age.Our thoughts on trauma recovery, and the transformation that inevitably takes place along the way.The importance of bringing purpose into everything we do.The truth of learning life’s most valuable lessons (i.e. it’s not always fun but it’s always clear!)Reco

It’s known that almost all of the body’s functions are controlled by the ANS (autonomic nervous system) - it’s actually around 90% of the body that the ANS innovates.In this episode, I’m exploring how calming your ANS plays such a huge part in your adulting and who you’re becoming in the world.Listen on for:An overview of the science behind your autonomic nervous system and how it functionsThe impact slowing down has on your moodThe role your ANS plays in balance, alignment, coherence and everyday lifeThe difference that focusing on this has made to my body image and my lifeA round-up of activities to help you take better care of your ANSLinks & resources mentioned in this episode:Manuel MartinezMBITGrant SoosaluPaul CanaliMisfit to Maven: The Story of Argh to AhhhPeter LevineThe one about fight or flight mode (with Rachel Morris)Rochelle Schieck - QoyaM2M playlistMorning meditation favsThe Maven Meditation ExtravaganzaWim HofRecommended Episodes:The one about overwhelm (with Alice)The one about overcomin

Stress. It’s real. It’s pervasive. It’s something so many misfits I work with battle day on day…And what’s happening to us now on a physiological level is that we’re responding to that stress the way our ancestors would have responded to life-threatening danger.In this episode, I’m joined by Dr Rachel Morris to talk about these instinctive responses to our “stuff” - fight, flight and freeze. Listen on for:The perks (and limits) of self-awareness.How to handle your emotions in a way that will make you way more effective!How to make sure your fight or flight response doesn’t rule the show.The impact that true community can have on the way you engage with your fear.Meet Rachel MorrisRachel is a GP turned Executive Coach, Speaker and Specialist on Resilience in the workplace. She works with GPs, doctors and other professionals in high stress and high stakes jobs to help them beat stress and burnout.You can find Rachel's podcast here: You Are Not a Frog Rachel’s website is hereFind Rachel on TwitterConne

Do you ever feel like you’re sleepwalking through your day?In this episode, I’m talking you through the 8 lies and the 8 truths that will bust through your overwhelm and resistance, and leave you loving your business and life.I want to show you just how possible it is for you to really live from being awake and in a place of superflow, rather than having to fall back into the “do, do, do” of life.Listen on for:My thoughts on positivity, and how it is not always the best way forward if your mission is to create intimacy with your people. Money-based mind monkeys that are still tripping you up and holding you back.The importance of balancing hard work and belief (one or the other is not enough!)Where to look for your validation (and why it’s so important to get it in the first place!)Links & resources mentioned in this episode:Slide into my DMs here.The one about opting out of the blame game (with Amy E. Smith)

Meet Heather ThorkelsonHeather Thorkelson is a Canadian dual entrepreneur living in rural Sweden. She grew up living all over the world and in her early 30's, finally took the leap to self-employment and never looked back. In 2013 she was living in Peru working as an online business consultant when she went to Antarctica, fell in love, and by 2015 she had opened a second business - a polar expedition company. She has just finished writing a book for incurable entrepreneurs, titled No Plan B, which will be released in Spring 2020.In this episode, we’re looking at the topic of personal responsibility and how, especially as entrepreneurs, we should be responsible for our experience, for our output and also for our errors (that’s a big one!).It’s a lot “easier” to pass the buck, blame others and avoid admitting our screw ups but that is not adulting. Adulting means practicing compassion for yourself, but also taking full responsibility for how you show up in the world.Listen on for:Thoughts on running multiple bu