How To Love Your Body

Welcome to How to Love Your Body - on today’s episode we are going to be sharing and validating you in ways diet culture never did and never will.  It’s called the It’s Okay If episode! Which basically means we are going to be going over all the things it’s okay to be doing as an UnDieter. To normalize all things!  We have found that when we post something on Instagram about it being okay doing things that haven’t always been accepted in the diet world we get the most interaction and engagement … people just want to know that they can do things without judgment, guilt, and shame.  It’s okay if ….    You ate the whole thing and they ate half You ate another slice of pizza and they didn’t  You ate a snack and they didn’t  You ordered the side of fries and they ordered the side salad  You ate dessert and they passed on dessert  You are hungry and they aren’t    You aren’t moving your body as much as you’d like  Stress eating  Eating out of boredom  Comfort eating  Snacking all day long 

Welcome to How to love your body today we are talking about “healthy eating”. Dieting says healthy eating is about what you eat and how much you eat. Period. It says that healthy eating will make you lose weight and not gain weight. Healthy eating is: Low carb Low  fat Keto Vegan Balanced “Whole foods” Its measured Weighed Tracked Prepped No processed foods and no fast food! Don’t forget to cut out sugar. This is what diet culture says healthy eating is. FIRST of all - most of these are contradictory so we can feel like we're going a little crazy when we are trying to just eat healthfully! Secondly -- how does it affect our overall health to try to eat healthy in this way? Often it can cause a huge lowering of mental health, it causes disordered eating, obsession with food, negatively affects our social lives and leaves us feeling defeated and shameful when the inevitable overeating or binge eating follows. Is this HEALTHY?? We don’t think so. But letting go of “healthy eati

Welcome to How to Love Your Body, today we are talking about what to do when we are worried about a friend or family member’s health issues and how we can address it.   You can grab your worksheet here bit.ly/undietsupport - so you can work through how to support your loved one in the best way possible.    To start it off - get into your loved one’s shoes. If you had something going on with your health, what would you want from a loved one?    Someone to listen to you? Someone to support you in going to appointments? Someone to love you unconditionally?   So would I.   But what we tend to dish out instead is:   Advice. Unsolicited advice.   And we mean SO WELL but it’s really not what they need.   We have people reaching out sometimes and wondering “But I really love them shouldn’t I encourage them to eat healthier”?   Even if it’s not about weight - telling someone to “eat healthier” is rarely constructive.    If your loved one has health issues going on that you feel are exacerbated b

5 mistakes people make going through the 5 phases   Welcome! This episode is brought to you by The UnDiet Academy starting August 4th 2020. Learn more about our program here - www.thebodylovesociety.com/undiet    Phase 1: The Initial Exit   Mistake: They’re starting here and can easily get stuck in consuming INFORMATION but never moving forward with actual transformation. Phase 2: The Diet Mentality Detox    Mistake: Still having that tiny voice in the back of their head focusing on weight loss/ weight gain instead of focusing on how their body feels. Phase 3: The Inner Self Work    Mistake: Thinking they need to love themselves and their body all the time but really - starting with body neutrality (or staying here) is much more helpful etc - body love isn't about the way your body looks. Phase 4: Embodying Intuitive Eating    Mistake: Allowing all food physically but not mentally ALSO - focusing majorly on eating when you’re hungry, “mindful eating”, avoiding emotional/ boredom ea

This week on How to Love Your Body we are diving HEAD ON to what we know is the #1 fear in UnDieting and that is weight gain.   It doesn’t matter when or where we ask, almost every woman’s concern and fear is weight gain or another body composition worry which is all the same thing in the end.   Before we get into our conversation today we want to share with you a resource we created to DEEP DIVE into this fear called the “Weight Gain WTF” video series. The series begins Monday July 27th so be sure to sign up before then to receive all 5 videos. This series is only happening July 27th - July 31st 2020. Go to bit.ly/weightgainwtf   As we talk about the fear of weight gain you may be thinking YES this is the biggest thing holding me back OR you might be thinking no that’s not my biggest fear it’s actually: Eating too much Never stop eating Being unhealthy   We get that, those are other fears that people have but at the root, these fears are based on weight as well.   Here’s why:   Any food fea

On this week’s episode of How to Love Your Body we are diving into Body Trust.   But before we start - this episode is brought to you by our free UnDiet masterclass happening this week on Tuesday July 21st and Thursday July 23rd.   Grab your spot to learn the 3 ingredients you need to become an intuitive eater and find wellness without the obsession - get on with us live and we will be answering questions and coaching you through these key ingredients. Grab your free spot at bit.ly/undietmasterclass   Body trust is a huge part of UnDieting and it is something that dieting teaches out of us.   We’ll start with what body trust is, body trust is when we drop all of the rules, shoulds and cants and simply listen to your body's signals and respond to them without doubt or questioning.   It’s one thing to know when you’re hungry and think to yourself - I cant possibly be hungry I just ate, is this real hunger? Maybe im just bored, I’ll wait 20 more minutes and if I still feel hungry I’ll have something.

Welcome to How to Love Your Body - on today’s episode we are talking about The Diet Mentality Detox - this is the second phase in UnDieting (there are 5) - a very vital step ( as they all are) but to really detox of the diet mentality and think in a different way is a life changing phase in this UnDiet process - if you want to learn more about all 5 UnDiet phases you can go back to episode 76.  Before we share about what the diet mentality detox really is and a few steps on how you can get started - this episode is brought to you by our free upcoming masterclass called The 3 Ingredients you need to become an Intuitive Eater and find Wellness without the Obsession.  We have 2 dates (July 21 & 23) and times you can choose from - you can find the link in the show notes to save your spot or bit.ly/undietmasterclass Okay - let’s dive in.  What is The Diet Mentality Detox?  This is all about rewiring your brain - your words, thoughts, and beliefs around diet culture.  It’s about changing the way you think

Today's episode is brought to you by our free 5 day UnDiet Mindset Boost- this is a 5 day opportunity for you to boost your mindset around undieting and do the important work of changing the way you think. It will be based on today’s episode and you can get it at bit.ly/undietboost 5 Major Philosophies of UnDieting  Shifting your thoughts about food and your body from the way you look to the way you feel.  There are some obvious things that you may have shifted already - not counting calories anymore, not on an actual diet, beginning the process of eating intuitively and listening to your body signals instead of food rules but there are SO many ways of thinking that need to change that sometimes we cant even see  Being overly concerned with emotional eating, overeating, making sure you’re ACTUALLY hungry when you eat etc are all markers of some old beliefs coming up. Would you be so worried about these things if food didn’t affect your weight? If you could eat anything, anytime and you would look the sam

Welcome to How to Love Your Body - on today’s episode we are going to be talking about body checking.  Before we dive in - we wanted to remind you that the 21 Day Body Image Intensive is closing Today - EOD - June 30th. We’ve been getting great feedback from women who have been currently taking the intensive. If you want to dive deeper into healing body image this intensive is for you. Go to www.thebodylovesociety.com/bodyimage to get started on day 1. 50% of the proceeds are going to The Loveland Foundation, an amazing cause we are passionate about as it’s all about mental health.  Okay so. Body checking. First, what is it?  An obsessive behavior in which one focuses on a certain body part/s while looking in the mirror/ at their reflection multiple times a day. Behaviors include:    Looking in the mirror multiple times a day checking the size of x body part.  Obsessively weighing yourself  Obsessively taking measurements of your body  Constantly focusing on how your clothes fit/ feel tight etc 

Welcome to How to Love Your Body on today’s episode we are talking about beauty, particularly conventional beauty and where it fits into the work of UnDieting and removing ourselves from diet culture. Yes - the beauty industry, makeup, hair etc is another multi billion dollar industry that preys on low self esteem and the need to look a certain way. Being aware of this is important - if the political side of this work is important to you, the best thing you can do is vote with your dollar, do not give money to these kinds of industries… and you’re also a grown woman who gets to choose what is best for HER! The first step is being aware of the insidious side of the beauty industry - did you know cellulite as a negative body feature was made up by the beauty industry so they could then sell you a product to fix something that you never had a problem with… until they said it was a problem? Take a step back and see if everything you buy and buy into is something you want to be a part of, cellulite creams, wai

Welcome to this week’s episode of How to Love Your Body  The terms body love, body neutrality and body positivity along with Body acceptance and body image all get tossed around a lot in this work and many use them interchangeably but all of these things are different. Today we are going to talk about the differences, what they mean for your journey and what to focus on in this phase of your journey. Let’s start with body positivity: This one is unlike the others. Body positivity is a social movement, it has its roots in the fat acceptance movement. It works along side racial justice, trans and queer inclusive, and disability movements. So when people ask, why is body positivity so political ? This is why - it IS, it’s a political movement.  The other terms we are talking about are more about the individual - and likely what many are talking about on their platforms when they use the term body positivity. Most people - even publications use these terms incorrectly. Take this article title for instance “

On today’s episode we will be discussing what body image is,and how to improve it. We will also be sharing about The Loveland Foundation, what it is and how you can help contribute while also improving your own body image. So let’s dive in: What is body image? The dictionary definition is “an intellectual or idealized image of what one's body is or should be like”. Both the words idealized and should hold the power of diet culture. Our ideas of what the ideal body is and what it SHOULD look like come directly from the message that thinner is better and all of the damaging self criticisms that come along with the diet mentality. Body image has much less to do with the way your body looks and much more to do with your thoughts and judgements around what it SHOULD be and what is good or bad in a body. The way to heal your body image is to transform these thoughts and judgements into ones of acceptance and flexibility. Accepting your body does not mean liking the way it looks all the time - it means letti

Quick Coaching: Is food logging to see how food makes me feel a good idea? This episode is brought to you by how to love your body the online course 4 weeks covering food movement body image and mindset All elements that are so important in becoming an intuitive eater You can learn more at www.thebodylovesociety.com/course Something like food logging (not calorie counting) isn't bad or wrong but the question is will it give you the results you’re hoping for? When you stop dieting and become an intuitive eater, many people hope to think about food less - logging in any form puts more attention on what you eat - Have to think about the food twice - eat it and write it down - See all the food you ate that day - way too easy to take stock of your day and think i shouldnt have had so many carbs etc - Hard to be present when logging  - False sense of control - if I don't write it down I'll go out of control KEY POINT: Nothing is bad or wrong - but we need to look at the intention of it and whether it wil

Welcome to How to Love Your Body. On today’s episode we are going to be talking about something that may get a little misinterpreted in the IE world.  Before we get started there’s a free worksheet you can grab by clicking HERE to help you assess what IE means to you, how you can be more gentle with yourself, and how to celebrate yourself.  IE is not about celebrating eating less.  People may think this because things like this get “celebrated”  “I stopped after one cookie.” “I passed on the stale donut in the staff room.” “I went out to eat, ordered what I wanted, and only ate half.”  “I usually feel like dessert every single night but tonight I didn’t”  “I listened to my body and realized I only wanted a slice of pizza with a nice salad to go along with it. Usually I want the whole pizza!” It does seem as though eating less is being celebrated when touching on these handful of examples….  And we want to tell you why it’s not about that at all - and tell you what it IS all about.  The IE world

A celebrity recently posted about her weight loss and there was a response from 2 different sides. This episode was inspired by Adele’s recent weight loss but what we talk about is true for anyone you know who loses a significant amount of weight. One group of people were praising the weight loss and one group were upset by the weight loss. The first group are dieters - those who believe that skinner = better, that weight equates to health, these are people that subscribe to the main stream diet culture that we live in, no surprises at all here really. We know people get praise for weight loss, it’s one of the many reasons we can even get sucked back into wanting to lose weight ourselves. This reaction is Predictable and quite frankly boring. We all knew people would have this reaction, they always do, its old it’s played out so lets move onto the next perspective that is mostly what we’re seeing online now. The second group were mad, they were triggered, they were upset. These are the people who are worki

Hello and welcome to another episode of How to Love Your Body - this is Jenna and Lauren and today we are going to be talking about quieting your inner critic.  You can follow along with the worksheet that goes with this episode here www.thebodylovesociety.com/105 You know the mean girl inside your head that makes you believe anything they say? She is something that gets to be handled because when the thoughts inside your head are constantly telling you how bad, unworthy, and such a failure you are - it will take you a heck of a lot longer to get to a place of love  and food and body freedom when you have such a negative nancy pulling you down.  So what do to with the inner critic when her head is roaring?  Acknowledge her and have compassion for her- she wants to be heard. She wants to be loved. She wants to be comforted. Even though she’s being such a mean girl - it’s the only way she knows how to communicate. It’s her cry for help - for that love and attention.  Of course you aren’t going to agree wi

We had a pretty controversial post on Instagram about this with lots and lots of comments so getting this topic on the podcast felt appropriate!  The reason is was so controversial is because we had a handful of dieters who couldn’t accept the fact that getting compliments for all their hard work is damaging - in a way they may have felt threatened that they wouldn’t be getting the external validation they so desperately need from the world to let them know - “hey you’re body is smaller, you are now worthy and enough.”    Of course this need for external validation was something that was learned from diet culture - dieters aren’t bad or wrong for wanting this validation - it’s just how diet culture has groomed us as humans - no one is bad or wrong but our intention of bringing up this topic is not to demean anyone - just share our opinions on this ….    So what’s so damaging about the phrase “Have you lost weight? You look so good!” ?   Most importantly - it perpetuates diet culture, it says “being thi

On today’s episode we are going to be talking about the ebb and flow of intuitive eating and UnDieting.  You can download a free worksheet HERE. Let’s dive in to today’s topic : We talk a lot about the ebb and flow of intuitive eating and this is what we mean by it. It means that intuitive eating doesn’t look the same everyday- and that is totally okay and normal and to be honest it really is the BEAUTY of Intuitive Eating!  Some days may look a little lighter, a little more nutritious, a little more green, and a little more colorful. Which could include loaded salads, veggies, salmon, brown rice, and asparagus.  Some days may look a little more dense, carby, less color, less nutritious, and filling! That could mean a pastry, pizza, and desserts!  Some days may look a bit more of the in between, green smoothie, pizza, salad, and a glass of wine or a cookie  Your days may look like some of these, all of these, or anywhere in between - we aren’t saying this is exactly what your days have to look like -

When everything is going to hell around us, food and body issues can stick out like a sore thumb just waiting to be obsessed over! So it’s absolutely normal if you’re feeling tempted to get back on a diet right now or even just “try to be sensible, healthier etc” -- but we know that any type of trying to restrict is just a diet, no matter what you call it. Here are 3 reasons that this could be happening right now and how to shift back into what you know is true - that the best way to honor your body and find genuine wellness is to continue repairing your relationship with food and your body. 3 Reasons this might be happening right now Control - Or lack thereof. Right now there are so many things that are out of our hands (in reality we actually have control over very little in life but our routines make us feel like we’ve got it) and the uncertainty of how long life will be like this can make us look elsewhere for something to control and keep in check. If your thoughts right now are, if this goes on for

We are covering this topic because we did a poll and 90% of our audience were interested in learning more about intuitive drinking. If this topic does not relate to you, you choose to abstain or are bothered by the topic of drinking then this is an episode you might want to skip. This episode is brought to you by our quarantine quiz which you can take to receive 1 personalized undiet strategy to make food easier while youre in self isolation. You can take the quiz at www.thebodylovesociety.com/thequiz Drinking can also react to having a diet culture mindset around it. If you’re worried about the calories, or have a screw it attitude because those couple drinks ruined your healthy day, drinking can be another difficult area. So here are three pointers on how to drink intuitively:   1. Focus on how you feel when drinking instead of following what’s going on around you:   We had a client who was wondering about intuitive drinking because they would often go out with coworkers and everyone would drink so