Wilde About Wellbeing

Today, we're talking boundaries, commitments and expectations. These are more important than ever right now, while we isolate with loved ones - or, on the contrary, are isolated away from them.  My husband and I have been working hard on boundaries around our relationship, our work, our time, and our other activities. These are only some of the areas where boundaries make life easier! It's so easy to confuse how we define "expectations" vs "boundaries" vs "commitments", and I share the way I define all three of these.  I also share my tips for how I work out where my boundaries need to be set - we all have to find the compromise between ideal situations and realism!  Accountability is important, too: if we have someone who can help us stick to our boundaries, we can go far!  Don't forget that while you want others to respect your boundaries, it's so important to respect theirs too!   Honorable Mentions (if you can't access these links, try using the Apple Podcasts or Overcast apps) Workbook on Self-Talk- FRE

Do you have enough focus on your goals? Too much - to the detriment of everything else in your life? (Guilty!) Today's podcast episode is all about finding clarity, and working out whether you have enough of it, how to get more of it, or - and this might be a surprise... how to take your foot OFF the gas occasionally! I think there are just FIVE questions to ask yourself, which will get your MORE clarity, less woolly thoughts, AND avoid stalling while you wait for validation from others.  Spoiler alert: take action, NEVER wait for validation from others - you are more than enough.    Honorable Mentions (if you can't access these links, try using the Apple Podcasts or Overcast apps) Marisa Peer's interview on Lewis Howes' School of Greatness podcast Workbook on Self-Talk- FREE!     Workbook on Building Rituals - FREE! Instagram: @wildeaboutwellbeing Pinterest: @wildeaboutwellbeing Wilde About Wellbeing website

I'm as big as a house. I'm so stupid, I'm as thick as two short planks. I have thunder thighs. NONE of these make sense. They're blatantly untrue (how can ANYONE be the size of a building?!), nonsensical (what even ARE thunder thighs?!), or simply untrue (I'm not stupid - there's plenty of evidence to the contrary!). In today's short episode, we discuss the importance of how we speak to ourselves, and I talk about how the simple reminder we are good enough can help us in our language. I also outline why affirmations can be fighting a losing battle against our more negative words. I was inspired to record this after hearing a fabulous interview with the amazing therapist, Marisa Peer, on Lewis Howes' podcast.    Honorable Mentions (if you can't access these links, try using the Apple Podcasts or Overcast apps) Marisa Peer's interview on Lewis Howes' School of Greatness podcast Workbook on Self-Talk- FREE!     Workbook on Building Rituals - FREE! Instagram: @wildeaboutwellbeing Pinterest: @wildeaboutwellbein

We're frequently hearing about how the government has put us in lockdown, in various countries around the world. While this may be PHYSICALLY true, it's not mentally true. In your mind, you are the one in charge. No one else. Not the government, not your parents, not your spouse, not your depression, not your anxiety, not your fear, but YOU. It's difficult in life in general to remember how much control we have over our own lives, but during the pandemic, that has become even harder.  Yes, we're following the rules of physical distancing, but that doesn't take away our power in so many other areas of life! In today's shortie episode, I discuss 5 ways to remind yourself that quarantine is NOT forever, and that you are very much in charge of your reactions to it.    Honorable Mentions (if you can't access these links, try using the Apple Podcasts or Overcast apps)   Workbook on Self-Talk- FREE!   Workbook on Building Rituals - FREE! Instagram: @wildeaboutwellbeing Pinterest: @wildeaboutwellbeing Wilde About W

Good news (pun very much intended!), you do NOT need to be a media junkie! I know that right now we are going through a pretty newsworthy event... BUT when those statistics and stories are doing more harm than good to your mood / mental wellbeing, it's best to step away.  You know there are going to be deaths reported, and are they not the same level of tragic, whether the number is 430 or 502 or whatever? It's not easy to reject news, and I share some of the ways I'm giving it up, putting boundaries in place, and regaining my control over its consumption. My anxiety and depression have definitely lessened now that I am more constructive around my news viewing. I also touch on how producing in other ways can distract us from our need to consume 24/7 news articles and TV.    Honorable Mentions (if you can't access these links, try using the Apple Podcasts or Overcast apps)   Workbook on Self-Talk- FREE!   Workbook on Building Rituals - FREE! Instagram: @wildeaboutwellbeing Pinterest: @wildeaboutwellbeing Wil

In this shortie, we're talking SELF CARE in self isolation. And I hear your "but"... kids... spouses... pets... increasing work demands! I share FIVE steps to find time to care for your mental health, whilst also caring for others. My strategy guarantees you'll find just a little downtime - ALL for YOU!  Although this is designed for quarantine, it's applicable any time - so give it a listen, and remember that we need to regularly put ourselves first. If we don't do that, we simply cannot care for the other people / animals / work that are calling for our time.    Honorable Mentions (if you can't access these links, try using the Apple Podcasts or Overcast apps)   Workbook on Self-Talk- FREE!   Workbook on Building Rituals - FREE! Instagram: @wildeaboutwellbeing Pinterest: @wildeaboutwellbeing Wilde About Wellbeing website

In today's short episode, I'm sharing ways in which YOU can make a difference to your community right now. Maybe you have time, but no money... Money, but no time... Skills... Or just a kind heart... ALL of these can be used to benefit others, and in this episode I offer just a few ideas! Remember: it's not about how much money or time you give, it's about helping in ANY small way that you can. Every single one of us can find five minutes to do SOMETHING that goes further than simply clapping for our health- and social-care workers.    Honorable Mentions (if you can't access these links, try using the Apple Podcasts or Overcast apps) My Medium blog on my work to make scrubs Captain Tom's JustGiving Page UK-based Scrub Hub for those wanting to sew scrubs The Makery's FREE (and super easy) scrubs pattern   Workbook on Self-Talk- FREE!   Workbook on Building Rituals - FREE! Instagram: @wildeaboutwellbeing Pinterest: @wildeaboutwellbeing Wilde About Wellbeing website

I struggled to share this episode with you... You see, I'm not being as gentle to myself as I could be... I'm guessing you're not either.  In the best of times, we can find it hard to be kind to ourselves, but right now? Wow, whole different ball game.  In today's shortie, I'm offering the 5 questions we ALL need to ask ourselves that will help us be a little more understanding and accepting of ourselves.  We all need this episode. Especially me.      Honorable Mentions (if you can't access these links, try using the Apple Podcasts or Overcast apps) Workbook on Self-Talk- FREE!   Workbook on Building Rituals - FREE! Instagram: @wildeaboutwellbeing Pinterest: @wildeaboutwellbeing Wilde About Wellbeing website

If I asked you to visualise progress, what would you see? For me, it's a staircase, but I recently heard someone describe their progress as 'completing the circle'.... In today's episode, I share why I think a staircase is the PERFECT way to visualise progress... And a reminder of childhood for you... remember how difficult it was to climb UP a slide at the park? That's why I'm throwing my weight behind a steps to success model!    Honorable Mentions (if you can't access these links, try using the Apple Podcasts or Overcast apps) Workbook on Self-Talk- FREE!   Workbook on Building Rituals - FREE! Instagram: @wildeaboutwellbeing Pinterest: @wildeaboutwellbeing Wilde About Wellbeing website

Are you a fan of meditation or mindfulness practices? Sometimes I am, sometimes I'm not. Right now, I'm struggling to settle into 'proper' meditation, and so I came up with this gentle 'mind wandering' practice. I hope you enjoy this as much as I do - there are NO RULES here, just letting your mind go wherever it wants to.    Honorable Mentions (if you can't access these links, try using the Apple Podcasts or Overcast apps) Workbook on Self-Talk- FREE!   Workbook on Building Rituals - FREE! Instagram: @wildeaboutwellbeing Pinterest: @wildeaboutwellbeing Wilde About Wellbeing website

Which COVID-19 personality type are you? Today's episode is almost a bit of a quiz for you - define your personality type, and how you're reacting to Coronavirus... and then find out how you can show up as a better human being for yourself, and those around you! I'm excited to share this theory, not least of all because I believe we can ALL experience personal development, self improvement and personal growth from this time.  Figuring out these three personality types helped me see who I DON'T want to show up as - and I hope it helps you do the same!   Honorable Mentions (if you can't access these links, try using the Apple Podcasts or Overcast apps) Worldometers statistics tracking for coronavirus / COVID-19   Workbook on Self-Talk- FREE!   Workbook on Building Rituals - FREE! Instagram: @wildeaboutwellbeing Pinterest: @wildeaboutwellbeing Wilde About Wellbeing website

I'm always inclined to focus on my ANXIETY right now - COVID-19 spreading across the world is a frightening time for all of us. It can feel almost apocalyptic. Especially if you're a 24/7 news consumer and researcher like I am! But today's episode is about a different PERSPECTIVE. I'm NOT saying we shouldn't be realistic about this virus - it is not a hoax, it's not something that only affects older people, and it's not a time to be a rebel and mess with the rules the government has in place for us (stay the HELL at home!). And yet, I want you to focus, just for this short episode on the ALTERNATIVE, the more positive perspective that coronavirus is offering, worldwide.  I look at the value of FAMILY TIME during quarantine... How we're able to exercise on our own schedule, with amazing instructors from all of the world... And other benefits, in my top five silver linings to the Corona crisis we're enduring right now. I am always here for YOU, feel free to get in touch, whenever you like. The anxiety is heavy

Today, there's one takeaway from the episode I want you to have  HOWEVER you react to the Coronavirus threat is LEGITIMATE. Your reaction to what's going on in the world is your own. Make no apology for it. In today's episode, I share my fears and discombobulation over the storm that we are weathering right now. I also explain how we might be able to better address panic buying. Because telling someone to just stop is NEVER. Going. To. Work. This isn't a happy-clappy kinda episode, but I want you to know that if you are in fear right now, that's perfectly okay. My anxiety is spiking BIG time: something I thought I'd got under control, but these are very different times.  I've got your back. I am here for you.    Honorable Mentions (if you can't access these links, try using the Apple Podcasts or Overcast apps) Worldometers statistics tracking for coronavirus / COVID-19   Workbook on Self-Talk- FREE!   Workbook on Building Rituals - FREE! Instagram: @wildeaboutwellbeing Pinterest: @wildeaboutwellbeing Wilde

In today's podcast, I want to introduce you to an AMAZING entrepreneur, who is changing how it FEELS to be a woman! Charlotte Chiang is the founder of Missfits, a bra 'matchmaking service'... Seriously, ladies, just like the right life partner, the right bra can change your world! Of course we talk lingerie, the current situation of having most CEOs of companies in that world being male, and so on. But we also touch on feminism (and why it's NOT anti-feminist to wear a bra)... the lies about bra burning... and why we should all be looking to Poland! Today's episode is very much one "for the ladies", but guys can learn so much here too. Breasts have become such a taboo topic, and they really shouldn't be - we ALL (whatever gender you take) need to be more open about them. By being open, we can start to (finally!) acknowledge they come in different shapes and sizes, and they don't all match what we see on porn movies. Hell no!   Honorable Mentions (if you can't access these links, try using the Apple Podcasts o

In today's podcast, I want you to know ONE important thing:  It is PERFECTLY okay to be worried about the coronavirus / COVID-19. You are not overreacting. You are not being 'over the top'. You may be concerned, and not even be experiencing anxiety. To be honest, this is a serious situation and so it would be kind of strange, if we weren't concerned about the potential outcomes. BUT... there are many ways to manage these feelings, in order to not get caught up permanently in a downward spiral, which only leads to panic and illogical thinking. In today's podcast, I'm sharing the preparations I've already taken (I'm a 'prep and forget' kinda gal!).... how I'm currently protecting myself... and 5 top tips on how to deal with coronavirus / COVID-19 related anxiety / worry, and not let it get out of control.  The risks ARE low. Logically, I’m not much more at risk of COVID-19 than I was before I knew it existed. But that doesn't mean we shouldn't take it seriously. Today's podcast is a NO JUDGMENT zone (I don't ca

I struggle to show up online on the days when I'm not feeling 100%. I want to be authentic and real with my audience, but I also don't want to seem the eternal pessimist! One of Brené Brown's quote is that we should share our scars, rather than the gaping wounds.  But it's hard, right, because sometimes we don't have time to heal the wounds before we next show up around friends, whether online or in real life.  For those days we don't have the time to heal first, in this episode I share the top five things I do to balance out my negative emotions on the bad days.    Honorable Mentions (if you can't access these links, try using the Apple Podcasts or Overcast apps) Dean Graziosi on Instagram Brené Brown on Instagram WAW podcast - "The Plague of Pessimism! The ten ways we can quiet our minds and self talk in the morning and at bedtime"   Workbook on Self-Talk- FREE!   Workbook on Building Rituals - FREE! Instagram: @wildeaboutwellbeing Pinterest: @wildeaboutwellbeing Wilde About Wellbeing website

Are you caring for your mental health in the best POSSIBLE way? Probably not, right?! In today's episode, I share EIGHT things that I'm (aka WE'RE!) doing that are stopping us from moving forward and holding back our growth. I got SUPER passionate in this episode... and I MAY go off on a few mini rants that express the frustration I feel at how EASY it would be to pull back from these mistakes... and yet how HARD it is to actually do the work! I'm also pointing out one REALLY important fact: you do not need to be perfect. You can be mediocre. You are still More. Than. Good. Enough. If you've ever been frustrated that your mental health or mindset is holding you back, then this is the episode for you!!    Honorable Mentions (if you can't access these links, try using the Apple Podcasts or Overcast apps)   Workbook on Self-Talk- FREE!   Workbook on Building Rituals - FREE! Instagram: @wildeaboutwellbeing Pinterest: @wildeaboutwellbeing Wilde About Wellbeing website

In today's episode, we're talking critics... cynics... doubters... haters... trolls... the people who simply don't believe in you or your purpose. I share my experience and reaction to something my mum said about my previous career, and why YOU don't need to react in the same way! My ten tips will help you work out when to listen to the critiquing voices in your life, and how to cope with ignoring them completely and continuing on your path. This topic is SO close to my heart - I hope you can learn from my mistake!   Quote of the Episode “Silence your critics. Ignore your haters. Delete your cynics.” Robin Sharma (The 5am Club)    Honorable Mentions (if you can't access these links, try using the Apple Podcasts or Overcast apps)   Workbook on Self-Talk- FREE!   Workbook on Building Rituals - FREE! Instagram: @wildeaboutwellbeing Pinterest: @wildeaboutwellbeing Wilde About Wellbeing website

What can you give to others? Time, money, energy, knowledge? We can all offer something different, and we can offer it to just about anyone anywhere in the world.  I spent years thinking that the only way I was able to give anything to anyone was by signing a cheque. And, of course, monetary contribution to charity matters. It's how charities are able to do their work. But it never felt enough.  Now that I've discovered other ways I can contribute to others - through my knowledge, time, and sometimes just my love - I wanted to share some top tips with you on how I come to find the ways I can best contribute to others. In today's episode, as well as those tips, I also share my experiences of how contributing to others makes ME happy - it feels almost SELFISH to help others ha!    Quote of the Episode “How can I change my orientation? How do I redirect my energy, so that it’s not so much about my performance, as it is about my contribution to others?” Kelly McGonigal on Impact Theory podcast    Honorable Mentio

Shannon Algeo is a yoga and meditation teacher, as well as life coach and motivational speaker. He's been named one of the top '35 Under 35 in Wellness to Watch' by Wanderlust, and hosts the incredible Soulfeed Podcast.  You know how the term "motivational speaker" gets thrown around these days, without any real meaning? When I met Shannon and attended his yoga nidra workshop at IGNTD Glow last October, I knew that he was the REAL DEAL.  I am so excited to be able to share Shannon's wisdom with you- I had an absolute blast recording this episode. Originally, we were going to be speaking about manifestation, and we did that, but we had this amazing wide-reaching conversation.  We talked about Shannon's own journey, and how he has been working through the feelings of self doubt. Another important topic was about what is happening in the world at the moment, and how we need to come together as a community for the greater good of the world - and our future. Also,  listen up for one of the best analogies I've ever