Jerry Banfield

Opportunity often comes disguised in the form of misfortune, or temporary defeat. In fact, without expectations there is a really good opportunity to learn without any pressure. If everything goes as expected, where is the opportunity to learn new things, gain new skills, or grow as a person? I hope you enjoy this power thought that has helped me develop as an individual, and I appreciate your feedback! --- Support this podcast: https://anchor.fm/jerrybanfield/support

A day spent depressed, frustrated, and angry is still a day worth living. I am sharing this message on day where I am feeling depressed and frustrated with life, and I will let you in on a few tips that help me see the light at the end of the tunnel. I have found that as long as I do not making things worse and try to solve my problems, things will eventually get better. Thank you for taking the time to listen to this power thought, and I appreciate your feedback! --- Support this podcast: https://anchor.fm/jerrybanfield/support

How to talk about problems without complaining. Through most of my adult life I often came across as a complainer. So, what is the difference between asking for help and complaining? Asking for helps comes from within. It comes from self-knowledge and self-awareness. Complaining, on the other hand, comes from an expectation on the world around you that is not met. A complaint might sound like, "I can't believe how high my phone bill is this month. This isn't fair!" Whereas, asking for help might sound like, "My phone bill is really high this month, I hope I can afford to pay it." I am happy to be in a place of gratitude today where I can seek help with my problems, and not come off as a complainer. --- Support this podcast: https://anchor.fm/jerrybanfield/support

"Do not make it worse" and "ask for help" are two power thoughts that help me get through the most challenging days. These two thoughts have helped me get through the past 24 hours, which have been some of the most challenging I have had in quite a while. When I can honestly identify that I am having a bad day, I have noticed a little piece of me often wants to make it worse. Today, I am grateful to be in a place where I can stop these self-destructive tendencies and ask for help. Thank you for taking the time to be here with me, and I hope you have a great day! --- Support this podcast: https://anchor.fm/jerrybanfield/support

How I challenge myself each day and make new expectations on what I can do. I am sharing this power thought with you today as I play a game of League of Legends (LoL), a game that has often frustrated me the past as I have struggled to learn it. When you are struggling or frustrated with something it is important to be able to pause, take a deep breath, and identify what it is that is making you upset. This practice allows me to be the best person that I can be today. I hope you enjoyed this lesson, and I value your feedback! --- Support this podcast: https://anchor.fm/jerrybanfield/support

The "it will be better when" trap. In other words, life will be better in the future when something else happens. I have fallen in to this trap many times throughout my life, and often it has happened to me while playing competitive video games. Often I would have the thought that it would be better when we won, or if I was having a bad game, it would be better as soon as it was over. I would never tell myself that the outcome wasn't important. What was important was whether or not I was having fun with my friends, or getting better at the game. Today, I am talking to you as I play a game called League of Legends, a game I have struggled to practice the principle I am sharing with you today. I hope you enjoy this power thought, and I appreciate your feedback! --- Support this podcast: https://anchor.fm/jerrybanfield/support

Can I still be positive in a situation that has consistently brought out the worst in me? It's important that things you do work in any situation, on any day of the week, and no matter how you are feeling. League of Legends solo queue has been one of the most difficult things for me to focus on and keep my cool with, and I told my friends roughly 8 months ago that I would never play the game again. Today, I am happy to be giving it a second chance and I hope that approaching it with a better attitude will give me better results. --- Support this podcast: https://anchor.fm/jerrybanfield/support

How to have a great day even when you are sick. Today, I am suffering from a bit of a cold, and I deal with being sick by doing the same things I do on a normal day. After being sick for hundreds of days over the course of my life, I am grateful to be alive and here with you today! --- Support this podcast: https://anchor.fm/jerrybanfield/support

What works for me to have a happy relationship with my wife. I am grateful to be in a position to share this power thought with you today. As a young adult I was under the impression that being in a relationship would solve all of my problems, but this couldn't be farther from the truth. A good relationship acts as a mirror, and I must be willing to work to be the best version of myself each day. I now understand the meaning of "my better half!" --- Support this podcast: https://anchor.fm/jerrybanfield/support

You can learn and grow, or you can criticize and condemn. It is difficult to do both. I have received some of the most criticism from the Call of Duty videos I upload to my Facebook page. People like to criticize me for "camping" even thought they ignore the outcome of the game. I remember when I was one of those people who wanted to criticize what others were doing, and blaming people for my own problems. Today, I am grateful to be in a place where I can focus on learning and growing as a person! --- Support this podcast: https://anchor.fm/jerrybanfield/support

Success equals failure, and failure equals success. You might think these two things are mutually exclusive, but you cannot have one without the other. You cannot avoid failure completely, or vice-versa. I have learned this principle throughout my life, and it is especially apparent with my work as an entrepreneur online. Since I have such a high profile as an instructor on Udemy, I often have people tell me how they wish they were as successful as me. On the other hand, I will have people tell me I am a failure with the way I teach something, or concerning the quality of the content in a course. So, am I success or failure? If you look at this idea in the context of a game where you have a winner and loser, how can the winner have success without the perceived failure of a loser? Thank you for taking the time to listen to this power thought, and I appreciate your feedback! --- Support this podcast: https://anchor.fm/jerrybanfield/support

How I maintain a healthy weight by turning what I eat in to a game. I turn eating in to a game by tracking everything, as I eat it, using an app called MyFitnessPal. I am grateful today to be down almost 50 pounds from where I was two years ago. So, why is this such an effective method for maintaining a diet? I have fun tracking what I eat! I noticed I was spending time everyday playing games on my phone, and I decided to start using MyFitnessPal to help me maintain a healthy diet. I hope you enjoyed this power thought, and I appreciate your feedback! --- Support this podcast: https://anchor.fm/jerrybanfield/support

The most powerful method of teaching is leading by example. This differs drastically in terms of how we think we should focus on using our words to communicate. As a child, my parents would always tell me not cuss, yet they would often swear in front of me themselves. So, what was the lesson I learned? Swearing was a privilege for adults, and I could cuss if there were no adults around. I appreciate the lesson my parents tried to teach me because they wanted a better life for me, but it is difficult to teach anything outside of your example. Ever since I became a father, I have a similar opportunity to lead by example, and it is harder then than it looks! I hope you enjoy this power thought, and I appreciate your feedback! --- Support this podcast: https://anchor.fm/jerrybanfield/support

What I learned sharing pictures of my daughter on Facebook and being told she was ugly. I share these pictures knowing that someone could potentially come along and hate on them and hit me in a spot where I am vulnerable, and sure enough I received a few nasty comments on the picture. However, this helped me to realize that the reason I create these videos is for the people who love them, not the haters. I would like to thank everyone for their continued support, and I hope you are having a great start to the new year! --- Support this podcast: https://anchor.fm/jerrybanfield/support

Discipline is finding ways to love doing what you need to do. This new idea of discipline helps to better motivate me and understand what I need to do in my life each day. The old definition of discipline I used most of my life was pushing myself to do things I hated, that I thought might be good for me. Things like running a mile, continuing to work a miserable job, or sticking with a bad relationship were things I would stay disciplined with because of the commitments I made. I used to think of discipline as something I hated, something that people got beat in to them, and i am thankful I can now view it in a different light. I hope this message is valuable to you, and I appreciate your feedback! --- Support this podcast: https://anchor.fm/jerrybanfield/support

Who are you perfectly qualified to help today? In other words, what unique insight can you give someone right this moment? Everyday I ask myself how I can be of service to others based on my own unique personal life experiences. So, how does this power thought help me live my life today? It helps to simplify my life and turns the pain and frustration of the past in to assets. Today, I know I can be of service to those who I share common experiences with, and help guide them to living a more productive life. Thank you for taking the time to be here with me, and I appreciate your feedback! --- Support this podcast: https://anchor.fm/jerrybanfield/support

How do you choose between the lesser of two evils? For much of my adult life I often found myself in lose-lose situations. Either I got my way and people around me suffered, or I didn't get my way and I was unhappy. This continual state of dissatisfaction with life spilled over in to my relationships with other people, studies, and work. I am here today to tell you that there is a world that is win-win, and all you need to do is ask for help. Thank you for taking the time to be here with me, and I appreciate your feedback! --- Support this podcast: https://anchor.fm/jerrybanfield/support

Everything is here to help you today. This is a power thought that helps me to stop taking issue with the way things are, and it helps me come to terms with that I might not know what is in my best interest. With dating I thought I knew how things should work out all of the time. I thought I should immediately be able to find my wife, start a family, and everything would go smoothly. So, with every girl I dated I expected things to work out a certain way and when it didn't I was mad and frustrated. It's tough to live when you you think everything should go your way. In the end, all of my failed relationships helped lead me to my wife, and i could not be happier! I hope this message is helpful for you, and I appreciate your feedback! --- Support this podcast: https://anchor.fm/jerrybanfield/support

How do children learn so fast? How is it possible to learn that fast at any time in life? It seems as if adults my age (around 30) stop learning as quickly. In fact, just recently I heard someone say, "Oh, when you're as kid you can learn things like a language so easily." So, what happens once we reach adulthood, what is it we lose that enables us to learn so quickly? I have found that listening rather than talking enables me to learn much more easily. Thank you for taking the time to be here with me, and I appreciate your feedback! --- Support this podcast: https://anchor.fm/jerrybanfield/support

Patience is the normal state for one that is living forever. It is easy to be patient when you have forever. This is an idea that helps me to take my time and appreciate the moment. I hope you enjoy this power thought, and happy holidays to you and your loved ones! --- Support this podcast: https://anchor.fm/jerrybanfield/support