Wilde About Wellbeing

When did you last doubt a goal, and changed it simply because you'd convinced yourself it was impossible? This is where our limiting beliefs are coming into play, and getting in the way of us making plans for our future. They're insidious little things: we don't always know they even exist!  I share in this episode my process of setting goals, whilst acknowledging limiting beliefs that are present in our lives - and even using the process to find out what our limiting beliefs are! You CAN set challenging goals, without letting your beliefs about what you CAN'T do get in the way - check out this episode to hear how!    Honorable Mentions (if you can't access these links, try using the Apple Podcasts or Overcast apps) Workbook on Self-Talk- FREE!   Workbook on Building Rituals - FREE! Instagram: @wildeaboutwellbeing Pinterest: @wildeaboutwellbeing Wilde About Wellbeing website

I've been thinking about all I've achieved in 2019, with the podcast, with my relationships, with my physical fitness, with my mental health. There are a lot of 'wins'.  I share how I'm feeling about going into 2020, and all those fears around not achieving enough over the last decade. Here's a secret: a LOT of us are feeling insufficiently successful when we look across the decade.  But I share why I've NOT made a list of achievements for the DECADE, and why I've concentrated on the last 12 months - and the future year!    Honorable Mentions (if you can't access these links, try using the Apple Podcasts or Overcast apps) Five Minute Gratitude Journal from Intelligent Change Own Your Awesome cards by Your Joyologist Moondeck cards by Aarona Lea Inner Compass cards Smyth et al, on how journalling might help reduced symptoms of anxiety and increase mental wellbeing   Workbook on Self-Talk- FREE!   Workbook on Building Rituals - FREE! Instagram: @wildeaboutwellbeing Pinterest: @wildeaboutwellbeing Wilde About

Finances? Food? Family? All of the above - and more 'non F' words? Yup, me too! This time of year can be HARD, and that's why today's podcast is all about how to thrive during this time. I've shared my tips on everything from money management, to gift giving, to social anxiety, and MORE! Hope this helps you to have a more enjoyable holiday this year!   Instagram: @mrsjessicawilde or @wildeaboutwellbeing

"You are NOT the victim". Those words have brought an incredible amount of CLARITY this week: not because I was being a victim (that was just someone's opinion), but because it made me realise I'm nothing LIKE a victim anymore. Remember: sharing our pain does not make us a victim; telling someone how we feel does not make us a victim; having a different recollection / opinion of something does not make us a victim; an in the moment reaction does not make us a victim; being labelled by someone else as such does not make us a victim. The only thing that makes us victims? Being defined by our victim status, letting it define us, refusing to move forward from toxic energy. It's all about mindset.  I've also been reading Shaman Durek's 'Spirit Hacking' at the moment, particularly the chapter on the victim mindset - so I feel like the universe is telling me this is an episode I need to produce! In today's episodes, I had a good think about some of the situations where I did behave as a victim and how I have changed

I've been journal-phobic for most of my life. Writing seemed like something that wasn't for me - almost a bit too self indulgent. But I've been practising journalling, since finding SO MUCH scientific research that supports it for managing mood, lowering blood pressure, and even helping prevent criminal re-offending. In today's episodes, I give my top six tips for getting started, and all the reasons why it's SO good for you!    Honorable Mentions (if you can't access these links, try using the Apple Podcasts or Overcast apps) Five Minute Gratitude Journal from Intelligent Change Own Your Awesome cards by Your Joyologist Moondeck cards by Aarona Lea Inner Compass cards Smyth et al, on how journalling might help reduced symptoms of anxiety and increase mental wellbeing Redwine et al, on journalling amongst those with heart failure Proctor et al, on effect of journalling on criminal recidivism rates     Workbook on Self-Talk- FREE!   Workbook on Building Rituals - FREE! Instagram: @wildeaboutwellbeing Pinter

"Why are you bothering getting up? The day will go badly anyway," says my brain. Every. Single. Morning. This episode is all about exploring the effects of this negative self talk, first thing in the morning and just before bed. You are not alone, if, like me, the self talk is worst at these times! In this episode, I give the top ten things I'm doing to try and conquer this PLAGUE of pessimism that overcomes me before I get up, and before I sleep!    Honorable Mentions (if you can't access these links, try using the Apple Podcasts or Overcast apps) Germain et al (Pittsburgh), on depression’s effects on circadian rhythm J Horne, on how slow-wave sleep affects the body Dietrich et al, on morning cortisol levels in those with mood disorders Bauduin et al, on how salivary alpha-amylase may be a marker for major depressive disorder   Workbook on Self-Talk- FREE!   Workbook on Building Rituals - FREE! Instagram: @wildeaboutwellbeing Pinterest: @wildeaboutwellbeing Wilde About Wellbeing website

Are you like me - a birthday dreader? That feeling which surfaces a few days before your birthday, over-reflecting and overanalysing everything you've done (or not) in the past year? We're not alone. Suicide rates increase within 3 days of people's birthdays. It's time we start accepting how we feel and finding ways to deal with it healthily.  This episode has my top 8 tips for managing the birthday dread!    Honorable Mentions (if you can't access these links, try using the Apple Podcasts or Overcast apps)   Witt et al (USA) on 21st birthday alcohol consumption Callaghan et al (Canada) on increased consequences of drinking around birthdays Peetz et al (Cologne) on how ‘temporal landmarks’ like birthdays affect our behaviour Williams et al (Manchester) on suicide risk around birthdays Matsubayashi et al (Japan), on connection between ‘milestone’ birthdays and suicide risk     Workbook on Self-Talk- FREE!   Workbook on Building Rituals - FREE! Instagram: @wildeaboutwellbeing Pinterest: @wildeaboutwellbeing W

When Jim Rohn said that we are the average of the five people we spend the most time with, I think he was wrong.  We are the average of the five people who we ALLOW into our heads - if you're surrounded by toxic people that are not easy to avoid, it's not an excuse. We can decide on our boundaries to keep those people out. I discuss the different types of people I need in my life, and how important it feels to be in a community, and connected to others. I discuss an important shared experience during a yoga nidra session (hosted by Shannon Algeo) at IGNTD Glow 2019, and how that helped me to realise the importance of who we interact with.    Honorable Mentions (if you can't access these links, try using the Apple Podcasts or Overcast apps) IGNTD Glow event, Los Angeles Shannon Algeo Dr Adi Jaffe   Workbook on Self-Talk- FREE!   Workbook on Building Rituals - FREE! Instagram: @wildeaboutwellbeing Pinterest: @wildeaboutwellbeing Wilde About Wellbeing website

I had an amazing time in LA recently, at Dr Adi and Sophie Jaffe's IGNTD Glow event. I heard so many amazing stories - from both onstage experts, and fellow audience members. In today's episode, I share the biggest takeaway: how we can use our pain in our purpose, helping others. This was a running theme throughout the whole event for me: the way that trauma can motivate us to do more with our lives.     Honorable Mentions (if you can't access these links, try using the Apple Podcasts or Overcast apps) IGNTD Glow event, Los Angeles The Naked Eye Studio (event venue, run by lovely Jen) Britt Piper Dr Adi Jaffe Sophie Jaffe   Workbook on Self-Talk- FREE!   Workbook on Building Rituals - FREE! Instagram: @wildeaboutwellbeing Pinterest: @wildeaboutwellbeing Wilde About Wellbeing website

I am a SUCKER for those feelings of overwhelm - they're almost addictive, right?!  In today's episode, I share my recent emotional difficulties with overwhelming feelings, as well as my top ten tips for overcoming them!    Quote of the Episode "Life has many ways of testing a person's will: either by having nothing happen at all, or by having everything happen all at once." Paulo Coelho   Honorable Mentions (if you can't access these links, try using the Apple Podcasts or Overcast apps) IGNTD Glow event, Los Angeles, 18-20 October 2019   'Mindset' by Carol Dweck   Workbook on Self-Talk- FREE!   Workbook on Building Rituals - FREE! Instagram: @wildeaboutwellbeing Pinterest: @wildeaboutwellbeing Wilde About Wellbeing website

If you've been following for a while, you probably know I've always had issues with weight loss - PCOS (polycystic ovarian syndrome) and imbalanced cortisol are the main factors for me. I decided to get some tests by a UK company that offer blood tests (I paid for these, this is not a promotion!), just to help me discover exactly what all my levels were doing.  It was really interesting to see the results, and to try and play detective with my own health.  I also discuss that I was somewhat disappointed not to find something 'fixable' by a pill - cortisol reduction relies on me... and I go into why I find this responsibility heavier than a medical prescription!   Honorable Mentions (if you can't access these links, try using the Apple Podcasts or Overcast apps) IGNTD Glow Event - 18-20 October, Los Angeles Medichecks blood testing services, UK The Elixir Clinic, London and the Middle East   Workbook on Self-Talk- FREE!   Workbook on Building Rituals - FREE! Instagram: @wildeaboutwellbeing Pinterest: @wildea

The best thing about holidays? Having time to read all those books you lined up on your 'must read' shelf! Today, I'm reviewing Scott H Young's incredible 'Ultralearning'. I offer my top takeaway from the book (so hard to narrow it down to only ONE!), which is all about the power of EXPERIMENTATION, and getting outside of that darned comfort zone!   Honorable Mentions (if you can't access these links, try using the Apple Podcasts or Overcast apps)   Scott H Young - 'Ultralearning' Scott's website Tommy Baker's interview with Scott H Young Scott's Instagram   Workbook on Self-Talk- FREE!   Workbook on Building Rituals - FREE! Instagram: @wildeaboutwellbeing Pinterest: @wildeaboutwellbeing Wilde About Wellbeing website

Are you off on holiday soon? In today's episode, I'm sharing my experiences from last weekend of packing, travelling, driving abroad, handling delays, and more...  NONE of which have to be a NIGHTMARE! (Yes, honestly!!)    Honorable Mentions (if you can't access these links, try using the Apple Podcasts or Overcast apps) Amazing packing cubes (Amazon)   Workbook on Self-Talk- FREE!   Workbook on Building Rituals - FREE! Instagram: @wildeaboutwellbeing Pinterest: @wildeaboutwellbeing Wilde About Wellbeing website

Today's episode is all about PERSPECTIVE - mine can be waaaaay too negative at times... I'm not an optimist, and live a lot of my life in pessimism. I am sharing how overwhelmed I'm feeling right now, and how I'm working on solving it - it's all about seeing that silver lining!     Honorable Mentions (if you can't access these links, try using the Apple Podcasts or Overcast apps)   Workbook on Self-Talk - FREE!  Workbook on Building Rituals - FREE! Instagram: @wildeaboutwellbeing Pinterest: @wildeaboutwellbeing Wilde About Wellbeing website

So, I'm a research NERD. I do the research into the latest studies released about mental health, so that you don't have to.  Today, I'm talking CHOCOLATE - yes, really! I give you permission to eat more... And also RED WINE - less about encouraging you to drink it, but still... There's reassurance for if you feel like you're having EMOTIONAL side-effects from anti-depressant medication... Also, if you're a night owl, there's some interesting research that says you could become a LARK in just three weeks... I also offer a RANT on the back of a Cambridge/Chicago/Minnesota study into problematic smartphone usage about why we need BETTER addiction resources!!    Honorable Mentions (if you can't access these links, try using the Apple Podcasts or Overcast apps) Bristol Uni - bullying and depression University of Vienna - antidepressants and their effects on empathy Birmingham University, et al - changing ‘night owl’ behaviours Matthew Walker's 'Why We Sleep' Baylor College - link between depression and eating

I refused to believe that I needed a calendar or any kind of schedule - I was convinced that blank space meant freedom to do whatever items on my 'to do' list were relevant. I was wrong. White space got me NOWHERE. But now I have a calendar, that's all changed... I've even got some tips for building a schedule from scratch! Productivity and time management are worth investigating - I wish I'd realised that before! I also share why telling someone we'll pencil them in is a HUGE insult!      Honorable Mentions (if you can't access these links, try using the Apple Podcasts or Overcast apps) Tommy Baker   Workbook on Self-Talk- FREE!   Workbook on Building Rituals - FREE! Instagram: @wildeaboutwellbeing Pinterest: @wildeaboutwellbeing Wilde About Wellbeing website

Today, I get seriously raw and vulnerable... there are a few near-tears moments... I talk about how my brother-in-law's behaviour towards me 9 months ago has somewhat halted the socialisation aspect of my wellness journey.     Honorable Mentions (if you can't access these links, try using the Apple Podcasts or Overcast apps) WAW podcast on grief in its many forms IGNTD Heroes Program   Workbook on Self-Talk - FREE!  Workbook on Building Rituals - FREE! Instagram: @wildeaboutwellbeing Pinterest: @wildeaboutwellbeing Wilde About Wellbeing website

Welcome to our first interview episode! Today, on the podcast, we are joined by Dr Adi Jaffe, a podcast host ('IGNTD'), author ('The Abstinence Myth'), an addiction and recovery expert... and my coach ('The IGNTD Heroes Recovery Program). We discuss how Dr Jaffe's own drug use led him to down an incredibly dark path of being arrested, having a difficult relationship with his family, and finding community in some places that - to the average outsider - would be seen as pretty unsavoury! Discussing community, we talk about both those darker communities (from when he was dealing drugs), and the more recent community that he has founded - the IGNTD community. We talk about what led him to his purpose of supporting those struggling with addiction, and why community is so important in terms of the journey to wellbeing.  Dr Jaffe then gets us super excited about the fact that he and his wife, Sophie, are hosting IGNTD GLOW, which is a Los Angeles based wellbeing event in October. We get to hear just a few of the exc

More on community today! Today's episode is a precursor to my interview with IGNTD founder and addiction recovery expert, Dr Adi Jaffe... Coming soon!! I discuss my experiences in AA for eight years, and how it made me feel worse... and how after a year in the IGNTD Heroes programme, I'm a million times better!   Honorable Mentions (if you can't access these links, try using the Apple Podcasts or Overcast apps)   IGNTD Glow event in Los Angeles, California  IGNTD Heroes program   Workbook on Self-Talk- FREE!   Workbook on Building Rituals - FREE! Instagram: @wildeaboutwellbeing Pinterest: @wildeaboutwellbeing Wilde About Wellbeing website

Welcome to the part two of the trilogy of episodes on community... Today, I get raw and vulnerable about my own participation in communities online, and how I finally feel part of something bigger than myself. I also discuss how posting with expectations of responses is something I'm working hard to overcome.      Honorable Mentions (if you can't access these links, try using the Apple Podcasts or Overcast apps) Dr Adi Jaffe Dr Jaffe's IGNTD Heroes Program Tommy Baker   Workbook on Self-Talk - FREE!  Workbook on Building Rituals - FREE! Instagram: @wildeaboutwellbeing Pinterest: @wildeaboutwellbeing Wilde About Wellbeing website