How To Love Your Body

Welcome to how to love your body - in this episode we are going to be giving you 10 small tips to help cope with food while in quarantine - as we are working with a lovely group of women right now in our 4 week course called How To Love Your Body Online Course and Community - we’ve noticed that food is very much a challenge and we thought it would be helpful to give you these 10 tips to help get through the days that you are home all day and it seems like all you want to do is eat.  Before we begin we want to share - for our 100th episode we are doing a GIVEAWAY - rate / review our podcast in the next 48 hrs and enter to win the How to Love Your Body online course for free. - The winner will be chosen on Thursday April 2nd. We will tell you more about the course at the end of the episode. Let's get started.  First - there is nothing wrong with eating - so this is not about getting you to eat less because you are wrong for eating . NOT AT ALL.  The intention behind this is to help you feel at peace being a

Welcome to How to Love Your Body, our first episode live from self isolation. Today we are going to be talking about 4 tips to make this time easier with food and body. These tips will cover food, movement, body image and mindset. Lets dive right in. Tip 1: Food  Satisfaction- it's important to eat food that will actually satisfy you. It's also important to eat ENOUGH. When you find yourself eating food that you actually don't want to eat and doesn't fill you - that can cause you to snack all day long. You just never feel complete. So when it's time to eat - choose something that sounds good to you. Allow yourself to have enough of it to help you feel content. Then you can move on with your day and not think about it until you're hungry again. If you find yourself grazing - it most likely means you didn't eat a satisfying meal that filled you up. Tip 2: Movement  Get creative, get flexible- since we are all quarantined - you may be restricted from workouts that you enjoy. Gyms, workout studios, hikes,

Welcome to How to Love Your Body. On today’s episode we are talking about one of the major obstacles in truly becoming an intuitive eater and finding food freedom, and that is “sensibility”. It might make complete sense to you to stop the CRAZY fad diets, where you cut out major food groups or count points religiously. That part of diet culture can be easy to cast aside in the pursuit of healing our relationship with food. What is much harder to let go of is the notion of being “sensible”. This is what we call “Diet Culture Light” -- being on board with letting go of intense, fad diets BUT you “should” still be sensible, eat whole grains, lean meats and just have processed foods on occasion.  This sounds RIGHT doesn’t it?  So when “allowing all food unconditionally” comes up in Intuitive Eating it creates pause - especially when it comes to binge eating… I ALREADY eat all the food and that’s the problem. This is tricky work. You cannot go half way with this work if you want true freedom (and true freedo

Welcome to How to Love Your Body - today on the podcast we will be talking what you can do on a “bad body image day.” We all have them - they are normal AND they can be challenging. Since they are inevitable as we all will have a body for the rest of our lives … what can we actually do on days when we are feeling down and judging ourselves….  Here’s a worksheet you can download to help when these days come up - get it by clicking the button above. So what are some things you can do on a bad body image day?    Stay away from “body checking” -  This means do not stare at yourself in the mirror judging every body part and zero-ing in on what you need to fix/ change. Avoiding the mirror on these days/ avoiding seeing your reflection is SELF HONORING. Of course, looking at yourself in the mirror and being able to do it with judgement is something to work on - but when you are having a hard day, staying away from analyzing every body part will be your ally. It will contain your thoughts from going off the ra

Welcome to How to Love Your Body, today we are talking about weight loss and how UnDieting can help with that. Be sure to grab your free worksheet at www.thebodylovesociety.com/96  the link will be in the show notes so you can work through this with us today! So firstly, we would ask you - how can you lose weight with dieting? So far there is no proven way to PURSUE weight loss and keep it off…. So this tells us that whether you are dieting or UnDieting - FOCUSING on the weight and potential weight loss isn’t going to get you very far. If you had dieted in the past and kept it off in a way that didn’t take over your life - you likely wouldn’t be listening to this podcast. So the moral of the story here is - there is NO proven way to actively pursue weight loss and have it be maintainable.  Does this mean you can never lose weight and keep it off? NO Your body is brilliant and will always take care of you and do it’s thing. But when YOU try to decide it needs to be a different size and then take action

Welcome to How to Love Your Body - on today’s episode we will be talking about binge eating and how FOOD is not the culprit here. Here we explain what is instead and how to begin healing it. Many people believe that the reason they binge is because of sugar, carbs, candy, chips, bread, whatever it is that tends to “trigger” someone.  And we get that because that was US! We thought every food other than meat, vegetables and fruit were to blame quite frankly. Every time we had a cookie, some potato chips, a piece of pizza or some chocolate all hell would break loose - why couldn’t we control ourselves around these foods? Why did one bite always turn into a binge? It must be the foods! This didn’t happen with veggies or salad! So we would try to NOT eat these things, if we could just avoid the food, the bingeing would be solved. But it was inevitable, we would give into one of these foods and BOOM we were back in the restrict/ binge cycle all over again. If you are trying to AVOID the foods you normally bing

Welcome to another episode of How to Love Your Body - today we’re going to be talking about what self care looks like as an UnDieter.  Before we get started you can download a self care worksheet at www.thebodylovesociety.com/94 Self care- “the practice of taking an active role in protecting one's own well-being and happiness, in particular during periods of stress.” Self care is doing anything that honors you and your body, it’s making yourself the priority - there isn’t a list of self care items that you have to choose from - it’s something that you choose for yourself  What makes you feel good? What fuels your soul? What makes you happy? What relaxes you?  What “that” is for you - THAT is self care.  So to get a little more concrete-  What might self care look like as a UnDieter in the categories of food, mind, and body?  FOOD Yes. Self care can involve food as an UnDieter - because food is awesome, and social, and pleasurable, nutrient dense and decadent!!  Self care may be -    Coming home af

Welcome to How to Love Your Body, on this week’s episode we are talking about foods that get a bad rap like sugar, because many people believe in this work but with conditions.. Shouldn’t we limit our sugar intake/gluten intake/ processed food intake etc…? You can get your free worksheet to go along with this episode at thebodylovesociety.com/93 When we say, listen to your body and allow foods unconditionally you might think, but i’ll be eating sugar all day long and that can’t possibly be good for me. This is why this work can be so challenging when doing it on your own, there is a mindset shift that makes this all work but coming from the perspective of diet culture, it seems nearly impossible for having NO limitations on any foods to make any sense health wise. Here is why “limitations” don’t work even if it seems like that is what would make sense. Say you are worried about sugar, so you give yourself a limitation of one sweet thing a day. It’s Tuesday night and you haven’t had your allotted sweet fo

Welcome to How to Love Your Body - today on the podcast we will be talking about comparing your body to your PAST body, this is the most challenging comparison that women come to us struggling with. To work on this and find some healing for yourself be sure to grab your free worksheet here www.thebodylovesociety.com/92 When we ask about comparison women say the hardest thing to move on from is comparison to their past bodies. And that makes sense, we create an identity for ourselves as we live our lives and a big part of that (sadly) is based around the way we look. So a couple decades later when we look different, it can feel very uncomfortable. Who are we now if we aren’t the fit one, the thin one, the super healthy one, or even the one always trying to lose weight. Even though these things really are so minor in WHO we are, we base a lot of our self worth/ identity around these things. If we are constantly comparing our bodies to our past bodies, it’s almost impossible to find peace now. So how do w

Welcome to How to Love Your Body with Jenna and Lauren- on today’s episode we are going to be answering a question- “what is the difference between listening to your taste buds and listening to your body?”  You can download the worksheet that goes with this episode at www.thebodylovesociety.com/91 So this is a great question because as UnDieters/ Intuitive Eaters some think that whenever they feel like eating something, want something, crave something they HAVE to eat it because as an UnDieter there are no restrictions and to always eat whatever and whenever….  It’s true that UnDieters have no restrictions and allow all food…. Here’s where the difference comes in between listening to your taste buds and listening to your body.  One of the most important aspects of being an UnDieter is paying attention to how you feel in your body. We have the philosophy of wellness without the obsession which means it’s okay to care about your wellness, you just don’t have to live an obsessive restricted life to care abou

Welcome to How to Love Your Body, this is Jenna and Lauren, your UnDiet Coaches- on today’s episode we are going to be talking about how you can improve your body image.  Before we get started you can download a free worksheet to go along with this episode- www.thebodylovesociety.com/90 Body image is such a loaded topic that we’d like to break it down and make it simple for you. We don’t expect you to LOVE your body over night- if there’s been negative body talk for maybe your entire life it makes sense that it wouldn’t be the easiest task to turn around and say “Hey, I actually love my body!”  So to make it simple we don’t want to give you 10 million different steps and different tools on how to improve your body image, that may just get overwhelming, and it may discourage you more.  So what can you do to make some progress?  It takes 21 days to create a habit so we want to invite you to take on 21 days of neutral/ positive body talk.  What to do:  Every morning or every night (whenever you like to jo

Welcome to How to Love Your Body - today we are talking about movement as UnDieters - we’ve gotten questions that sound like this by many women “I’d really like to start exercising more, but I’m having a hard time not secretly hoping I will lose some weight, so I end up just not doing it. How do I change the intention of exercise?”  This is a great question because UnDieters have a complete different relationship with movement than we did as dieters - so it’s important to know the difference and really take it on so diet culture doesn’t creep in when wanting to move your body.  It’s important to first figure out what your actual intention is with movement. Creating your “movement manifesto” - “I move my body in ways that I enjoy because it feels good for me physically and mentally" is a great example of a movement manifesto.  Here are 5 tips to help: 1- Create movement manifesto - this is your new belief around movement. 2-  When you plan to workout check in with your intention/ movement manifesto and as

Welcome to How to Love Your Body - today we are talking about the post Holidays - to ease any feelings and overwhelm that may have come up in the past week or two.  This week we are launching our Free 5 Day Wellness Without the Obsession in the New Year Challenge! You can grab it at bit.ly/undiet5days   We get it.  In general (we know this may not be everyone) the holidays are a bit much.  There are more    Parties  Food  Drinks  Etc    It may be very joyful for some and not so joyful for others but the point is- if you are celebrating the holidays and you’re working on IE + UnDieting many feelings could have come up for you -- and we are here to ease your worries (if you even had any) …  Even though we get to listen to our bodies as IE’ers and do what feels good - we can’t help but understand that during the holidays it’s just different - there is a lot more going on that normally wouldn’t be going on such as the parties with decadent delicious food that could be stressful. It may be a few d

This week on How to Love Your Body we are going to unfortunately be talking about what to do when someone asks if you’re pregnant when you’re not.  Now we wish this wasn’t as common as it is - in The UnDiet Academy 3 members got asked this in the past couple weeks! It’s wild. To start - be sure to not ever ask a woman this. There are multiple reasons, the least damaging being it implies that the person has gained weight… if we didn’t live in a diet culture so obsessed with thinness this would not be a big deal at all, but here we are. The reasons we really find it damaging is because so many women struggle with fertility and when you ask a woman if shes pregnant and shes not and shes been trying for 5 years, it can be devastating. Or what if she is but she hasnt told anyone yet?  Let people tell YOU if they want to. Has this ever happened to you before? How did it feel? Why did it feel that way? Did thinking someone thought you have gained weight feel like the ultimate insult? Isn’t it interesting

 Welcome to How to Love Your body - on today’s episode we are going to be doing a quick coaching episode on setting boundaries with family when it comes to diet culture and body comments.   We get that it may be challenging for you over the holidays as you may be seeing family more than usual- and if you have someone or multiple people in your family who are deep in diet culture / like to comment on your body / other peoples bodies this would be tough as an UnDieter - triggers everywhere!  So what can you do ?  1. Prepare ahead of time  If there is someone specific you are thinking of - let’s say your mom - you may have done this a million times - let them know before hand that you don’t want any diet talk or comments from them. Tell them they can have their own opinion and own life for themselves but when you are around to not talk about it directly to you. Of course she (or whoever you are thinking of) can not honor your request but the point is- you are setting a boundary with them and if they break th

Welcome to How to Love Your Body. On today’s episode we are going to speak to all you ladies who love to plan - and answer the question, can I plan meals for the week as an UnDieter.  You can get your worksheet on how you can plan meals as an Undieter at www.thebodylovesociety.com/85 So the answer is YES, you can still plan meals as an UnDieter but of course we are going to share that it is much different planning than when you were stuck in dieting.  The main differences - there is flexibility, no restriction, and there are absofreakinlutely NO rules when planning as an UnDieter.  We get that there needs to be some planning in life when it comes to food - with your busy schedule, family life, careers etc  it seems silly and impossible to make a trip to the grocery store every single day (unless that’s something you love to do!)  So how do we plan and still live as Intuitive Eaters and UnDieters.    We usually get about 4 - 5 dinners for the week and purposely leave about 2-3 nights open for flexibilit

Welcome to How to Love Your Body - on today’s episode we are going to be talking about the power of satisfaction. Satisfaction is at the top of the list when learning about IE - so we wanted to dedicate an episode to it! You can grab a free worksheet on the power of satisfaction by clicking here - www.thebodylovesociety.com/84   So what’s the power behind satisfaction:   It eliminates the binge (when tied in with not restricting)  You feel complete and stop thinking about food - no grazing! You can listen to your body much better / better attuned with your hunger / fullness signals  It’s not about the quantity, it’s about pleasure and enjoyment - you can actually taste your food/ present! You can choose what you actually enjoy - no the non fat, low fat, diet version (unless that’s what you actually prefer!) - You can get the whole fat, non diet version which may blow your fucking mind. Like have you ever tried REAL ice cream - not the protein ice cream - or full fat yogurt, or full fat lattes,

This week on How to Love Your Body we are talking about self compassion. To grab your worksheet to follow along with this episode go to www.thebodylovesociety.com/83 A big misconception of self compassion is that it means letting yourself go, never pushing yourself, being lazy… NO! Self compassion means simple kindness to yourself - the same you would expect from others and the kindness that you extend to those around you. Our inner critic is so loud and so strong and sometimes it can feel like - if we’re hard enough on ourselves we’ll be motivated to do things like workout more, eat “healthier” etc. But this is not the case - negative motivations like fear, self hate and feeling inadequate fall short when things get tough. If you aren’t seeing “results” fast enough we fall into the screw it cycle. Go really hard and then say screw it and quit just to start all over again. Self compassion works differently. It allows you to live in a more enjoyable way (no more self hate to fuel your fire) and can actua

This week on How to Love Your Body we are going to be talking about HEALTH and how to navigate it without it being rooted in diet culture. This week’s episode is brought to you by The UnDiet Academy - the 13 week group coaching program that brings you from dieting, binge eating, and thinking about food all day to living as an intuitive eater and finding wellness without the obsession. Doors are open now but they close on Wednesday (tomorrow!) at 6 pm pacific. This will not be happening again until mid next year!   Now let’s dive into today’s episode! Many women we talk to want health, wellness, energy, to FEEL GOOD, but they aren’t sure how that happens with intuitive eating and undieting without them slipping back into old dieting habits. Here’s how it works: There are 5 vital phases to go through to get to this place of balance and wellness without the obsession.   Phase 1 : The initial exit - This is where you are now - dieting, off the diets but not feeling great about it or immersed in intuitiv

Welcome to How to love Your Body. this week on the podcast we are going to be answering the questions YOU asked in our facebook group and on instagram. But before we get into those - this episode is brought to you by this week’s masterclasses! Today and Thursday we are hosting 2 more live masterclasses.  Even if you signed up for last week’s but couldn’t make it on live definitely grab a spot for this week too. You can join us live, ask questions and get coaching on the spot! You can grab your spot at bit.ly/undietmasterclass How long did it take Lauren and Jenna to practice intuitive eating before you settled into your body’s natural weight range? It truly is irrelevant. This work is tricky - it’s a bit of a catch 22, if you focus on finding your weight set point, you will not be able to be intuitive in the way needed to find your weight set point.  The shift from weight loss needs to happen - even the shift from focusing on weight at all.  What to do instead? Get into the present moment. Take care o