Success After Excess

Hey everyone! Thank you for stopping by and tuning in today! I wanted to touch on authenticity today because I know from my own experience, I found it difficult to be authentic for a large part of my life. Some people may not understand why and honestly, it was because I was filled with fear, self doubt and had incredibly low self esteem. I felt judged and undeserving of many things. Living in today's day and age it is also incredibly easy to falsify ones looks and the appearance of their lives. This creates room for false self esteem and self worth. There are so many masks that we can wear and avenues that we can take to hide our true selves from the world. When we learn to be our true selves, and be authentic, we can then learn to grow and love ourselves. Through learning to love ourselves and nurture a healthy relationship with ourselves, we can then have the courage to lay ourselves bare and then truly be open to giving ourselves fully to others. We can then truly love others and allow ourselves to be lov

Hello everyone! I hope that your day is off to a great start and thank you for tuning in and allowing me to share this time with you today! In this episode, I wanted to focus on a behaviour that I used to partake in and for the longest time, was completely unaware of it and the damage it was doing to myself and my relationships. It is a self sabotaging behaviour that stemmed from self defence.   Basically in order to protect myself, I would lash out at those around me before they had an opportunity to hurt me and in relationships, because I did not feel deserving of love, I would utilize the behaviour to self sabotage my relationship. One day during an interaction with a friend, I exercised this behaviour and for some reason in that moment, it hit me like a ton of bricks, just how wrong I was. Looking back I believe it was because in that moment my friend was in pain and despite that, my desire to protect myself was greater than my ability to help her. I feel that those circumstances are what helped me b

Welcome everyone to today's episode where the topic is focused on insanity! Living in several cycles of insanity used to be a total normal thing for me and the worst of it was, was that I was completely oblivious! Not only to the fact that it was such a part of my life, but also the destruction it was creating in my life. Insanity does not have to be the worst that you can think. Rather it can be very deceitful, especially when it comes to those of us that struggle and or have struggled with excessive behaviours and or limiting beliefs. Insanity: Do the same thing over and over and expecting different results. The definition is simple and so are the many ways that it can manifest in our daily lives. Once we take the time to look at how we deal with things, operate in the world and interact with others, we can learn to identify where insanity may be cropping up in our lives. Then we can take measures to change our approach, try a new method... we can ultimately learn how to break the cycle of insanity and move

Hey everyone and thank you for tuning in to today's episode!  Today I wanted to talk about procrastination essentially. This episode is entitled 'What Are You Waiting For?' as I have found in my own personal experience and through the experiences of others that at times, we can get very focused on waiting for the "right" time and or become discouraged at the time with assume it will take us to create change, take a risk, go for a goal, etc. The quote that got me thinking is "Never give up on a dream because of the time it will take to accomplish it. The time will pass anyway." How true is that?! It can be so easy to allow ourselves to loose focus and determination when we start to focus on the 'what if's' of life.... Speaking for myself, There are a ton of goals that I could have either accomplished altogether or accomplished better and or faster! What it is a lot of the time, is truly an underlying sense of fear that causes us to seek out these "valid reasons" that provided us with what we feel is a jus

Hey guys and thank you for tuning in today! I wanted to talk about motive today. Specifically your motive when it comes to connecting with others be it for business or personal. Bottom line, there are a million motives that one can have however, if they are genuine and stem from the desire to truly serve others, I promise that the fruits you will gain will be ten fold of that than if they stem from a place of self. Have a great one guys and we will talk soon11

Hey everyone and welcome to episode 41! Thank you for tuning in today! I wanted to take a minute and talk about the concept of you are who you hang with. At one point in my life, I was completely oblivious as to how sick I was and how toxic my relationships were. I truly thought that there was nothing wrong with the negative thinking and speaking, the limiting thoughts and talk and or with the absolutely destructive behaviours.  Looking back on my past, I can see very clearly the cycles that were feeding setback after setback. The funny thing is that most of my beliefs and my perception of the world and what it held for me, were given to me by those closest to me and nurtured by them as well. I feel it's because like myself, it was how they were taught and they had had limiting thoughts and destructive behaviours passed on to them and honestly, were unaware.  Once I came too, I began to gain some clarity. I began to see how despite loving me, there were many in my life that were not as supportive of

Welcome to episode 40 where the topic is failure. Traditionally we are taught to look at failure as a negative thing. The incredible Dean Graziosi taught me that failure is not a bad thing! In fact, it is a great learning tool, if we are willing to shift our perspective of what it means. This mindset is a simple yet HUGE difference between successful and unsuccessful people! Here it is... Failure is an opportunity to LEARN! We can use it to look at our design, our process and see where we can tweak things to ensure a different outcome! If we are truly passionate about the life that we want to create... about the change that we want to cultivate and nurture, then giving up when the going gets tough, or when things don't work out the way that we anticipated, isn't a viable option! By changing "failure" into a learning tool, a method of insight, then we can ensure that we continue to progress, one way or another, until we hit our goals and bring our visions to life!  I want you to think about a baby. When w

Hello and welcome back! After solving some issues with one of my programs, we are back on track! Thank you for tuning in to episode 39 in which the topic is titled "Is That A Reflection?" What inspired this topic for me was a pattern that I began to notice personally when people began to change.  When we start to take control of our lives and start creating positive change, we believe that those in our lives are going to be happy for us! That they will be there cheering us on and applauding the shifts that we are having, There absolutely will be people that support our transition however, there are very likely going to be others that scoff at us and start to call us down and treat us as though we think that we are these elite beings that indulge in self righteous behaviour and thrive on making set people feel like they are lesser than us.  The fact of the matter is, we are changing and they are not. We are elevating our state to a wavelength that they are not operating on and it is not malicious in

Welcome back for episode 38! Today's topic is how happiness if actually found within despite some of our best efforts to find in in others and in things. Instant gratification feels great in the moment however it never lasts and never actually fills the void. When we learn to invest in things that truly fill our souls and inspire us, then we begin to find happiness that lasts and that we can continue to nurture and expand!

Hello and thank you for tuning in! Today's episode is short and sweet! The topic of choice? A simple way to keep the spark in your intimate relationship! Have a super fab day and remember to keep it simple!

DO NOT ALLOW YOURSELF TO BE DEFINED BY OTHER PEOPLES STANDARDS OR OPINIONS!! "Tension is who you think you should be. Relaxation is who you are." It is absolutly within your right and control to shed the standards of those around you and be true to yourself!!!! Not only will it improve your quality of life and the quality of life for those around you, it will literally allow you to make HUGE shifts in your life! I that you are all having an incredible day and thank you for tuning in!!

Hello and welcome, welcome welcome!! I hope that you are all well and thank you for tuning in to join me today! Today I wanted to really talk about the saying "Pain is inevitable, suffering is optional" For a LONG LONG time I lived in a mindset where life happened to me and was always working against me. I suffered heaps and looking back now, I fully accept and understand that it was all at my doing! Whilst in that mindset, it was just par for the course that everything was a result of a person, place and or thing that I could easily point the finger of blame at and thus walk away with no accountability.  Nowadays I have come to realize that no one escapes pain. It simply is apart of the human condition and of every single persons journey. Suffering on the other hand is not. Suffering is when we choose to nurture our pain. When we choose to make our pain our focal point and nurse it. The key to dealing with our pain effectively is not to let it take over our life, as trying as it can be at times. The key

Hey everyone and welcome back for episode 34!! Today I wanted to talk about something that hit me like a ton of bricks earlier this week... You see, I have one relationship in particular that I struggle greatly with. This person is one that plays a HUGE role in my life while simultaneously missing the mark in that regard. It has taken me a VERY long time to accept that this person was never going to be who I thought that they should be, nor who I need them to be. Coming to that realization was incredibly painful. Even today there are times where I struggle with the logic, rather lack thereof, and sometimes step back into this persons line of fire and become hurt again and then remind myself that she simply is who she is. There is nothing that I can do to change this person and despite knowing that she loves me and my children, I have to continue to accept that my Mom is who she is and that her actions are a direct result of her upbringing and her skill set.   So the flip side of this relationship is one

Good morning everyone and thank you for tuning in to today's episode! The topic today is appeasement and despite how sometimes, it can be beneficial, when it becomes excessive in its use, it then begins to pose a HUGE threat to our happiness, well being, our authenticity and to our relationships. There is something to be said for choosing not to "rock the boat" from time to time, however as individuals, we all have different needs, wants and desires for our own appeasement and happiness and when we start to appease someone too much, we start to shut parts of ourselves out and or down. I hope that wherever you are tuning in from today that you have an awesome day and as always, I appreciate you taking time out of your day to tune in!

Hello and here we are for episode 32!! Today we are talking about the importance of finding YOUR why as well as how to uncover your true why! The first time I heard this concept I thought it was incredible! I always thought that I knew what my driving force was in life but as I went through the process that I am going to share with you today, I can tell you that I had layers of superficial whys that were covering up my true why. In order to find and maintain the momentum that is required to succeed and also create new and lasting change is to know our why so that when things get tough, we are able to forge forward knowing deep down, why we are doing what we are doing! Have an awesome day and I look forward to seeing you all tomorrow here on Success After Excess! Thank you for tuning in!

Happy Friday everyone and thanks for tuning in to episode 31 where today's topic is, everything is temporary and how it can be so incredibly helpful to remember that! Times get tough and we all experience happiness, sadness, greatness "failures" and the like. It can be so easy, especially when we are in a time of adversity, to end up feeling as though things may never change... as though perhaps we are doomed to remain in a state much less than where we would like to be. This is where it is crucial to take a breath and remind ourselves that no matter what is going on, it WILL not stay the same forever! That things are inevitably going to shift and that there is always a viable solution if we so choose to seek it. Thank you all for joining me today and I hope that you have an incredible weekend! 

Welcome everyone! In today's episode, episode 30, I wanted to talk about the importance of trusting the process.  We live in a society littered with instant gratification which despite feeling great in the moment, can also end up creating a wealth of disappointment, fear, regret and uncertainty amongst other things. When we can acknowledge that it took us time to get where we currently are, then it's that much easier to accept that it is going to take us time to then get where we want to be. Trusting the process also helps us enjoy the journey that we are on. It presents an opportunity for us to be present and celebrate the small wins along the way! Have a fab day and thank you for tuning in1

Hello all and welcome to episode 29 of Success After Excess! Today I wanted to talk about baby steps! I don't know about you, but I know on many occasions, I have tried to inflict change at mach speed in my life, only to watch it crash and burn equally as fast as I tried to bring it to fruition! With that said, sometimes change is instantaneous as are the catalysts to create it, however in my own personal experience it is easier to break things down into digestible pieces rather than try to conquer the big picture in tact.  I've also come to understand that by taking baby steps, not only is one I able to create true lasting change in their life, these small steps allow one to create more realistic and attainable goals which help to remain consistent (key component of success), motivated and focused! It also allows you to feel better about where you are going with much less pressure and far more positivity!

Good morning everyone and welcome to episode 28 where we are talking about the importance of remaining teachable. There is a saying that goes "If we are not growing then we are dying". When we close ourselves off to the idea of learning, then we are also closing ourselves off from the ability to grow! There is always something that we can learn and although we may not always agree with certain notions, by remaining open minded and teachable, we are still able to utilize anything that we learn to help up grow. Have an incredibly amazing day and thank you for tuning in!

Hello all and welcome to episode 27!! Today I wanted to talk to you guys about inventory. Any successful business takes inventory regularly and I know before I started on my journey in recovery and personal development, I was the master at taking others people's inventory!  What I have come to learn though is that taking the inventory of others serves no other purpose other than to feed my own distraction and to also bring myself down. With that though comes the importance of regularly taking my own personal inventory. Like any successful business, I want to ensure that I am generating profitable ROI's and that my investments, are serving me well. By taking our own inventory, we keep the focus on where it should be and we grant ourselves the opportunity to ensure that we are investing ourselves wisely in people, places and things! You are valuable as is your time!